My cat died while I was on vacation, she was 15 years old, She was everythg in my life how can i ease the pain

Question

I'm mourning and need outlrets or ideas to get over the loss

Answer 1

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Ariel (at age 13 1/2) this past October. She was not my only cat but she was my first cat, had been with me through the most, and was a dear friend.

First thing to do is allow yourself to grieve. Making some sort of memorial may help. I did feel a little better after I did that. I dedicated a shelf to pictures of her, her favorite toy, etc. I also made a photo memorial of her online.

Adopting a new pet eventually may help but NOT NOW. Take the time to grieve over the loss of your cherished cat. You will know when you are ready to move on. When you adopt a new pet, it should be all about the new pet...not about filling a void.

Answer 2

I am so sorry! I have had so many pets and many that have been with me over 15 years. When one of them dies it is so hard because they do become a part of you. Only time can heal the pain you feel now. However, like all things do---it will pass eventually. You will think of him all the time and he will always have a special place in your heart. Just know that for him to have lived that long he had a wonderfull life, and maybe one day you can do the same for another cat!!! Hope this helps---good luck

Answer 3

This is hard, I am so sorry for your loss. These animals come into our lives and give us unconditional love and theres no better way than to memorialize them. I used to work at at veterinarian
hospital and sometimes when an animal passed, the owners
received a plaster cast with thier paw print on it. Of course you
need to also have a funeral. Getting another cat is not the answer for you getting over the loss, you need to heal, give yourself some time before getting another animal. Because as
you already know, your animal was special and no other one can
take thier place.

Answer 4

I know how you feel. I lost Crystal two months ago. She was 18 yrs old. I had her from the beginning. I flew her to Germany when my exhusband and I were stationed there. And I flew her back. She wasn't just a pet she was my friend because she was always there for me. Gave me unconditional love.

I write in a journal, do puzzles, get out and go to movies with friends, and my other two cats have been sweet to me, they know she's gone.

Time has helped and time will help you. What you could do is gather pictures of your cat together and have them mounted in a nice frame. There is a websie for people grieving over lost pets. I talked to others on that and it was helpful. I don't remember the name but you can find the site if you search on yahoo.

Answer 5

You will probably need to spend some time going through the grieving process. After that, which might be weeks or months, you might want to think about adopting a kitten as a new companion. That's what I did. Even though I still love my cat who died, and no other will replace him, the kitten I adopted has been a source of joy.

Answer 6

It's really tough to lose an animal. Especially when she was so important to you and you cared for her for so long. Getting a new cat may be a bit tough, but it all depends on your personality. Maybe if you like dogs..that would be a good thing to invest in. It's a different type of animal, but it will give you something to do and love to keep your mind off of the kitty. I'm so sorry :[[

Answer 7

Definatly do not get a new cat. Perhaps another animal would be nice. Get a cat once you feel you are ready. I know it may be heard to believe, but she is still alive in your heart and one day you will meet with her again. The most important part is knowing that you loved her.
When my 18 year old dog died, I made a memorial. I collected pictures, plushies, and his bowl, blanket, and collar. I nicely framed all his pictures and scrapbooked his pictures and my memories of him.
Crying could also help. And I know you feel like nothing could help, but life gets better.

Answer 8

Hi there...please accept my condolences for the lost of your beloved. It's never easy and I hope you will find comfort in this poem:

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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Pet Loss support forums and hotlines:
http://www.petloss.com/newchat.htm
http://www.pet-loss.net/
http://www.vet.cornell.edu/Org/PetLoss/

Answer 9

you've my deep sympathy as i understand how a lot you may love a puppy. I easily have a canines i love. Cry and mourn all you want to. you'd be able to bypass on. After a lengthy time period i might want to get yet another cat for your Kiki if she is on my own stop slightly. The penalty we pay for loving is the undesirable discomfort when we lose the loved one. yet I wager you does not commerce those years with Shu-shu. God bless.

Answer 10

Get a young kitten. It won't replace the love of your old cat but as it grows it will take up more space and fill that empty filling.