I deeply regret what I said to him. He said he was going to do something and he never did and so I wrote him a mean email and now I regret saying what I did. I actually told him that he was the king of unreliability and I told him he didn't have any integrity (ouch ouch ouch). I really like this guy and I didn't mean to hurt his feelings, but I was so upset that he didn't even call to apologize for not following up with me that, in anger, I went in for the kill. I feel like a horrible person and now he rightfully isn't speaking to me anymore (not returning my calls). If you were in his shoes, what could I say to make you believe I'm really sorry? I don't think a relationship is possible at this point and so I want him to know I don't expect him to "take me back" but I would like to take a stab at clearing the air and I hope to get at least a friendship out of it (but I know that's a stretch). Thanks.
2007-01-06 13:59:47 · 9 answers · asked by Krysta 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I feel your pain..., I think you should send him an apology in writing, and explicitly say that what you said to him was insensitively exaggerated and a compulsive reaction that you should have been more thoughtful about, especially considering how he has been so (positive word) or done (x,y, z) for you. Tell him you understand that a relationship may no longer be possible, but that you want to clear any animosity or weirdness that presently exists, because he is such a decent person and it isn't fair to either of you to leave things this way. If you're sincere, and honest, you know you've done what you should have, regardless of what comes out of it. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-06 14:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lola_Runs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel your pain. I've done this quite a bit by losing my temper (even with my current BF) but I do it less and less with each passing year. If you are truly looking to set it right and for no other reason -- which is actually kinda empowering because you're really doing it for yourself not him so it will probably come out better -- I'd hand write him a note. Expect no answer. You'll have to be satisfied with the fact that you tried to set it right. I actually think you've said it pretty well in your question. If someone sent me that I'd accept it as an apologize. Also, if you write him a note it allows him to process his feelings on HIS terms (as opposed to a phone call). Craft the best note you can and then let it go. Best wishes.
2007-01-06 22:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by Carolyn R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some advice:
First of all, say it on a written letter. HANDWRITE IT! Don't email it or type it! It makes all the difference! It hows how much you mean it!
Not only tell him how much of an idiot you were, tell him why that he is the exact opposite to everything you called him, and tell him you won't ever stoop to it again.
Oh, and don't do it two or three months after. After that amount of time, you'd have a lot of nerve trying to say sorry.
2007-01-06 22:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by The Nomad Yokai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like he did you wrong and should be apologizing to you. I would not apologize to him first. If he calls and says sorry, then you can "ditto" it!! Not before!!
Think about it, he did not think twice when he "wronged" you....why should you think of him now!!! Be a strong woman!!
Does any man out there need a doormat??? Don't let men treat you poorly and then reward them for it!!
Are the other woman answering this question serious??? He is not worth it!!
2007-01-06 22:10:19 · answer #4 · answered by luv2bme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got this one, you tell him: "Listen, about everything I said...I let my anger speak for me without really thinking...it's just that it's been a while since I've found someone that I really care about and when you didn't stick to your plans, I guess I felt 'rejected' and jumped to conclusions, look , I really care about you and I was a jerk to say all of that without really finding our what your reason was for not calling...etc...can we try this again, if not intimately, then how about friendly?" how bout that?
2007-01-06 22:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Virgo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Apologize, and like other people said tell him what you're telling us. Your emotions got the best of you and tell him its one of your flaws and you want to working on it.
Pray!
2007-01-06 22:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by howardlee1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A personalized e-card saying you are sorry and how you feel is good. Give him some time and stop poking the already injured body. Time heals...
2007-01-06 22:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by charmaine f 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him what you are telling us.... if he knows the truth, then you should be able to get a forgiveness. tell him how much he really means to you, and that you don't know what you would do if you went to bed every night knowing that he was mad at you.... and just tell him you really feel... tell him it was all out of anger, and you didn't really mean what you said.
2007-01-06 22:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by AdViCeE 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you explained to me with complete honesty what motivated you and expressed that you know you were wrong, it was not justified and that if nothing more you would like me to accept your apology... I would forgive you.
2007-01-06 22:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋