it just seems like double dipping. am i right for thinking this way?
2007-01-06 13:55:34 · 14 answers · asked by stacy w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is why men don't do showers. I agree-it's double dipping and it's no way to do a friend and it's no way to do a nacho in the community salsa!
But, my wife says yes. A gift for both.
2007-01-06 14:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are expected to give a gift for both. I know...I hate it, too. I especially feel bad for you if you're IN the wedding...that's when it gets REALLY expensive. Keep in mind how close you are to the couple. I was in a wedding last September, spent a TON of money, and now the couple and I are no longer speaking...long story. Anyways, yeah, you should get a gift for both, but don't spend that much money on the wedding shower gift because that's sorta "just for her." I got a picture frame and a "Our First Year" calendar...nothing big. The wedding gift, however, is to them both, which is supposed to be the bigger, more expensive gift. You are right though, it IS double dipping. Just keep this experience in mind when you have your own wedding and treat others the way you think they'll treat you on your special day.
2007-01-06 14:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by An Aspiring Teacher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is customary, yes, to give a gift at both. That's why my advice would be to not spend TOO much money on the shower gift, and spend a little more on the wedding gift.
I guess it is double dipping, but what are you going to do? That's how society works nowadays.
2007-01-06 14:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had both a shower and a wedding reception. The reason that we had the shower was so there would NOT be a ton of gifts at the reception. Frankly, it takes a lot of time to open those at receptions...We just wanted to get outta there and get onto the honeymoon. LOL
Seriously, on our invitations, we just put that the only gifts we needed was the prescence of all the people that we loved to share in our happiness...
2007-01-08 01:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by prplpngn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you give a gift for both, they are two separate occasions. A gift for the wedding shower is something modest, usually something small for the home, whereas a wedding gift is usually more substantial.
2007-01-06 22:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bridal shower is nothing but a party saying give me presents. and my sister in law just had one today, and they just wanted money anyways. and they should only have a bridal shower if they are just moving in together, because otherwise they should already have everything they need. I'm not sure what to say, its kinda like a baby shower you have to bring a gift, and than when the baby is born you should bring another one. So I say skip the bridal shower, and just go to the wedding... But thats just me.
2007-01-06 15:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Dana V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right for thinking that way!
A shower gift IS the wedding gift.
2007-01-06 14:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by Julie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the shower is for the bride. this is where you give her a gift for her personal use. the shower is more relaxed. usually...only close freinds and family ar invited.
the wedding gift is something you give for the bride and groom to start their new life together...something they can use. or even money to put toward the wedding bill or the honeymoon.
2007-01-07 16:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if you give a gift, you are not required by good etiquette to attend the wedding, but you should have a good reason why not. Plus, if you don't when you send the gift, write a note saying you are sorry, but you are not able to attend
2007-01-06 14:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by tibbitz02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but the shower gift is a much smaller gift like a set of pot holders.
2007-01-06 14:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋