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Relax. Be yourself. Do more listening than talking.

Good topics to ask him questions about are:

1. Music
2. Sports
3. Food
4. Favorite class/job/movie
5. Does he have brothers or sisters
6. What does he normally do on weekend

Being nervous is natural. Remember, not everyone will hit it off. But you will never know if you and your crush will hit it off if you don't take a chance.

Grab your favorite drink. Put on your favorite music. Practice the "message" you will leave if you get his voicemail. Take a deep breath. Smile (it shows through the phone). Pick up the phone and make the call.

What's the worse that could happen?

1. He doesn't realize how unique and special you are? His loss. Move on.
2. He does realize how unique and special you are? You realize he isn't for you. Move on.
3. You both realize you both are unique and special? Enjoy!

If you get his voicemail, leave a simple, polite message... and your phone number so he can call you back.

Wait for his call. If he doesn't call back in 3 days... try again.

Crushes should be enjoyable, not stressful. Have fun and no matter what, remember how great you are. It pays off in the long run.

2007-01-06 13:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by coach k desciple 2 · 2 0

I know a lot of people are saying, "Ask him questions about himself." I agree with them. Asking questions can be a great way to get to know him and start a conversation.
But too many questions can make him feel like he's going through an investigation, making him awkward too. Make sure you're not asking a question, getting his answer, then moving on to the next question almost instantly. Expand upon his answer. If he doesn't ask you the same question back, tell him yourself what your answer would be.

Just be careful not to ramble. Always smile, and do not be afraid to laugh! One of the greatest compliments I've gotten is that guys like my laugh. Apparently it's quite... melodic?

Also, don't be afraid to tease him a little bit if he says something a bit off. It will ease your nerves and give him permission to tease you back when you goof up. It keeps the conversation light-hearted.

Sometimes, when I'm at a loss for what to say, I'll walk downstairs and sit with my family. They're a loud bunch so he'll hear a bit of it over the phone and realize that I'm just a normal girl with a fun family. Sometimes he'll comment on my brother's loud outbursts- which will start up another conversation.

Just try to keep it light and go with what seems to flow. Flirting is a girl's natural instinct- you'll get it right. ;)

2007-01-08 18:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Ask questions...does he have brothers and sisters...what type of music does he like...what does he do for fun...what's his favorite food...if he could travel to anywhere in the world, where would it be. All of these questions can be expanded upon and then the conversation should just flow from there. Make sure not to talk about yourself too much. I know that can happen when you're nervous. You will do just fine!

2007-01-06 13:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by azjen77 3 · 0 0

heya, my answer might sound a little false, but preparation helps if you don't have the experience or confidence to just wing the call.

firstly, have an idea what you want from the chat - to just talk, to arrange a meet, to tell him something specific. Being clear on that, means you have a goal and that helps if you get freaked out somewhere in the middle. also, guys are often goal orientated (why is she calling and who gave her my number?).

next, think of a couple of things that you could ask about him (we like to talk about us, right?). "do you mind me calling you?" is a good first question. also, think of a few things you could mention that are relevant to you both - something that happened to someone you both know for example.

if it helps, write keywords down (not phrases!) and keep them handy whilst you talk. if you get lost or he goes silent, then you have a pointer.

next, keep some attitude in reserve. if he isn't even polite enough to be cool to you on the phone, you don't have to keep trying to make the call work. if it's his fault it goes bad, it's his fault. don't be embarrassed to like someone only to find out that they have no personality on the phone or no manners - that's on them. at least you tried.

o, and chill out. it's only a call. you can always cut off and blame it on the connection ;)

oh, and don't talk to much. if you run out of breath, quit talking and wait. if he is interested, he'll fill up the space.

2007-01-06 13:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

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2016-10-30 05:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Just call him up and ask him out. I've had two women in my life ask me out. The last one that did I married.

Go for it. What have you got to lose!

2007-01-06 13:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0 0

what you like but let him talk as well

2007-01-07 08:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by in pain 2 · 0 0

for starters, ask him about himself, then he'll ask you about yourself

2007-01-06 13:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by tommy 2 · 0 0

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