Why would my boyfriend WANT TO TOUCH MY BUTT instead of holding my hand first? WEIRD?
Before my boyfriend even held my hand he asked if he can "touch my butt?"
And (This was my other question but I'd add this on here too)
I am a virgin and my boyfriend joked about raping me a couple of times. I told him to stop, he did that day, but said it again the next day. He doesn't even say he is joking. Like I asked him what he said after he said "I'll rape you"..he said he said "He'll date me" and than started chuckling saying bad cover.
We talk dirty on the phone sometimes and that's when he says it.
I have told him before that I intend to stay a virgin until marriage.
Are these all bad signs? What does it mean?
2007-01-06 13:15:12 · 21 answers · asked by JamaicanmecrayZ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is NOT a joke post. I am very serious.
2007-01-06 13:28:26 · update #1
Okay, it is very obvious that your boyfriend is not only oversexed, but has high hormone leves, scientifically speaking. In other words, this guy is bad news. A guy like that is dangerous, who would openly talk about rape to the person who he claims that he will rape.
Not only is the issue of rape a very heavy crime, but it is also something that no girl will ever want to experience, much less think about. Though you say that he might be joking (which already marks him as either rough or just a complete idiot to even touch on this subject with a girl), if he keeps on bringing it up even after you've told him clearly to stop then it means that, maybe even unbeknownst to himself, he actually is really thinking about it.
I suggest you to seriously tell him to not bring up that subject ever again if he still wants to be your boyfriend. If he continues, you'll know that he doesn't respect you and in that stage, just dump him. As for the butt touching? That is a sign of strong perversion. As I've said before, he doesn't seem to respect women.
Ask yourself if you really want a guy like that. Then act on your answer.
Good luck, and BE CAREFUL. There's no telling what he might try.
2007-01-06 13:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a jerk to me. If nothing else, he sounds incredibly insensitive. And yes, while it's not weird that he would want to touch your butt, it's a little insensitive (ok, maybe it is weird.) I would tell anyone that rape is NOT a joking matter at all, and that to even joke about it is in poor taste. I wouldn't talk dirty to him on the phone either, that's just getting him all worked up, and you may be setting yourself up for something that you're not willing to deliver on. Girls constantly underestimate the power of the male sex drive, but you have to remember that YOU control the physical level of the relationship, he'll take as much as you let him take.
Personally, I would dump him though. Like I said, he sounds like a jerk. There's better guys out there, find one of those.
2007-01-06 13:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your ages but he sounds immature so I'll guess you are both young. His comments are making you uncomfortable and that can't be a good way to feel around him. Some guys would have no problem carrying on a relationship on your terms but so many feel they have to conquer a girl so they will have bragging rights later. If your guy is pushing to touch your butt he doesn't sound like the guy for you. You sound strong and have chosen to take a stand and only have sex on your terms. Congratulations,wish I had been stronger and more protective of my virginity. Stick with your decision and find a new guy
2007-01-06 13:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just a jokester and horny too. Don't worry about it, he's just not a sentimental or deep kinda guy, if he wanted to touch your butt before holding hands with you. Don't marry him though, he doesn't sound like he'd make a very good husband.
2007-01-06 13:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by Summerbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this is not too cool...
I'd find someone else...
but if you really like the guy, then explain to him that he needs to stop or your going to leave him for good, because words can go into BAD BAD actions... I know from experience... just let him know and if he really likes or loves you, hopefully he'll stop.
2007-01-06 13:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by IluvthisBoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how much you value a gentleman's behavior, for your boyfriend is definitely vulgar person. Did you stop to think that you are encouraging him to behave in this manner by talking dirty with him on the phone?
2007-01-06 13:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a bright girl. That is going to take you a long way in life. Good for you. You see the red flags. Now you need to decide what you want to do about them. I say the guy is just out to have sex with you, to add your name to his conquests. Don't let him do that to you. Break it off and find someone who likes you for you.
2007-01-06 13:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by MW 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes be careful with this one. He has a very high sex drive. He will probably be the kind that will not be able to control his desires. And when your not giving it to him he will shop around. He will also ask you to do things that you dont really want to do and you will find yourself doing it for him just to keep him happy. dont fall into that trap.
2007-01-06 13:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your idea of a joke post? You're way to plastic to pull something like this off, if it is. We are not that stupid. Take your twisted antics somewhere else.
2007-01-06 13:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dump him sound like he might just try to rape you
2007-01-06 13:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by spuds36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋