Messy wedding invitation wording - help!?

Question

My fiance and I are to be married in June, so we have just started on our invitations. We are very unsure of how to word the invitations. Here's the situation - My parents were divorced, but my mother recently passed away. His parents are still together. My aunt is paying for the majority of the wedding and his parents are helping out too. We would like to some how have everyones names on the invitations but are very unsure of how to word it. My aunt is from my moms side so we are worried that it will offened people on my dads side, but my dads side has no cares what-so-ever of paying or helping oay for any of the wedding stuff so should I take that into consideration or not? if it is possible I would like it to go somewhere along the lines of "so and so" ... "request your presence in the marriage of Her to Him ..." and so on ... but wording is really important-Dont want to offened anyone but we don't want to leave anyone out... please help.... any ideas?

My father can't finacially help out due to illness but is helping with everything else - we still feel he should be included ...

Answer 1

Mrs. Anna Johnson
Requests the honor of your company
at the wedding of her neice

Lisa Jones
to
James David

Son of Mr and Mrs. Timothy David
on Saturday, the Sixth of June
Two Thousand and Seven
At One O'clock in the afternoon

First Baptist Church
100 1st st
Newark, New Jersey

I say those who are helping should be on the invite, if they arent paying for it, obviously their feelings cant be hurt that bad. It is your day honey, celebrate with those who are there for and with you. If they want their names added, they should offer some type of help.

you can also try http://www.versethis.com I saw it in one of my invitation catalogs before...

Answer 2

Depends on how long the companion has been around. If she was there for the majority of the groom's childhood, it's appropriate to include her, if she entered the picture after he was an adult, there's no need to have her listed. There are many types of invitations as well, some only list the bride's parents, and some only list the couple. The best way to make sure you don't offend, is talk to her. It's not her day so she shouldn't get overly upset no matter how you word it.

Answer 3

Definately take into consideration who is paying. Tell your dad you need to word the invitations and ask if he has any intention of helping with the cost. If not, he need not be included on the invitation. The invitation is sent by the one giving the wedding (your aunt and BF's parents) so their names go on the invite.

Also, you can ask the person printing the invites what wording to use.

Answer 4

In todays world of dysfuctional families, unusual is now trendy....just say....Joe Smith, Betty Sue (your aunt) and blah blah and blah blah request your presence in the marriage of "bride and groom." Don't say their son and daughter, and while I know you want to honor your mother's memory, perhaps the invitaion isn't the place to do it. Leave a special seat for her at the ceremony and have your father (even the most bitter of divorced people will honor the deceased) give you away by saying "I, in her mothers honor and memory."

Also, I think a special toast to your beloved aunt at the ceremony along with a small gift on the side would be nice. Typical gift would be a small trinket of jewlery like a special locket or something inscribed.

Answer 5

Traditional wedding invitation wording has nothing to do with who is paying for the wedding. The way to get out of your grief about this situation might be something like:
Jane Doe and Joe Cool request the honour of your presence at their union in marriage at ___ church at _____ blah, blah, blah.
Or
Jane Doe and Joe Cool,
together with their families,
request the honour of your presence......
Or
Jane Doe,
daughter of
Mr. Frank Doe and the late Ann Doe
and
Joe Cool,
son of
Mr. Roger and Mrs. Kate Cool,
request the........

Hope it helps...

Answer 6

Just so I understand what's going, you are getting married not your aunt. Congratulation by the way. This is you and your fiance day to become one and you would like to share it with your friends and love one. If I'm not mistaking, is only you and your fiance name the most important thing here or you can just said we would like to invite you to our wedding and put in parentheses we( step mother, my fiance and I) and also include her in all the decision so she doesn't feel left out.
Good luck with your wedding.

Answer 7

We would like you to request your presence at the ceremony of Jane Smith and John Doe.

Rejoice with us....

Mr. Jane Smith and Mrs. Ethel Aunt (in either order)
Mr. and Mrs John Doe
(You could list the names alphabetically if needed)




It is your wedding invitation, so you may do whatever you like.
You may announce it yourselves as a couple, then add the families after. In light of your mother passing, everyone should understand, and be grateful that your aunt has so graciously stepped in. If you would like to send me the particulars, I would be more than glad to help you out.

Answer 8

I'd suggest one of two things. First choice, avoid it all together and say, "Together with their families, X and Y request your presence..." Second choice, what's most important is who is hosting the event. If your dad has nothing to do with that, then you don't need to include him (unless you're worried about offending somehow). Sounds like your aunt and your fiance's parents are hosting, so I'd run with that.

Answer 9

Mr. Brides Father and
Miss Brides Aunt
cordially invite you to attend the wedding
of (his daughter)
Brides Name
to
Grooms Name
son of Grooms Father and Mother
at...

or

Mr. Brides Father, Miss Brides Aunt,
and Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents
cordially invite you to attend the wedidng of
Brides Name
and
Grooms Name
...

Your mother should be listed in memoriam in the program, and possibly recognized during the ceremony.

Answer 10

When in doubt, check the internet! I went to Google and put in Wedding Invitation Ideas and I only went to www.aboutweddings.com and then clicked on invitations and they had a lot of ideas on wording. . .Good Luck and Congratulations! I hope you have a picture perfect wedding! Louise