ok so i live with my bf, and weve lived 2gether 4 a while now. he is very obsessed with me, he tells me things like he couldnt live without me or he would kill himself if i ever left him. these things scre me alot cuz he hits me and yells at me, we were going to have a baby but then i miscarried, so there is no child in this matter(thank god). the last time he hit me was last night and i cant leave the house cuz he doesnt want anybody to see my bruses. when i wear short sleeves i usually cover them with my hair(its past my knees) i cant cut my hair cuz of my culture(my mom and dad are native american). when he hits me and im on the floor he pulls me by my hair, he wont let me leave and makes me have sex with him.i cant get away. my friends dont know about him doing this to me and neither does my family. i cant talk on the phone without his supervision, and i'm treated like a baby my family let me move in with him cuz they trusted him, i want out what can i do?
2007-01-06 12:43:40 · 7 answers · asked by chahta oklah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my family doesnt know about me being pregnant or about the miscarrage.he scares me and i really really wanna get away but i'm afraid cuz he says things like if i cant have u nobody can and i am scared he will either hurt himself or me or both of us. please help me, before i moved in with him he was soo good to me and now he jsut scares the bajesus out of me and i wanna go really badly. he beat me yesterday with the broom, and my bow for my cello, he tells me he loves me, i think its allong the lines of being obsesed with me, his whole back is covered with this huge picture of me and he has my name tatooed on his neck.
2007-01-06 12:48:10 · update #1
my family loves him, hes crazy he thinks that he's so good and that he's the best man alive. i have scares on my back from being beaten with an extention cord and he always says he's sorry but i need a way to get away with out him being able to get me.
2007-01-06 12:56:05 · update #2
You need to look up resources in your area for abused women, talk to a counsellor and create a safety plan to get out of that house and relationship fast ... part of this will include laying charges against him and getting a no contact order in place ... go to the hospital/dr. and get pictures taken of your injuries as evidence ... get yourself somewhere he is not going to be able to find you .... tell your friends and family what is going on as well.
As for him threatening to kill himself - you aren't responsible for his actions and let me put it to you this way - why would you want to be with someone who is mentally unstable/suicidal? And if he's not, why would you want to be with someone who is saying this to manipulate you?
If he really loved you, he'd be respectful, be treating you like a goddess and protecting you from harm - not being the one inflicting it. Girl, get out now while you can, before it's too late.
2007-01-06 14:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same kind of situation for a while and finally got up the courage to leave him. I had to leave the state and sever all ties with him. Police would not do anything and my parents were in another state, not that I wanted to get them involved with my mistake. Honestly, I could not get away from him without making a drastic move. I did and am glad that I did. I am now remarried with four teen age boys. Life after him has been good. Good luck, sweetie, I am thinking of you.
2007-01-06 20:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would do is call the cops, lay an assault charge instead of a spousal abuse charge (spousal abuse is a very minor charge compared to assault) the next thing I would do is talk to your family, they have to be made aware of the problem so that they can help to keep you safe, YOUR safety is the problem not his, so don't worry about him hurting himself (besides any one who will do that to the person they love is just plain crazy) he is an animal and deserves to be treated as such, It's time to take your safety into your hands, before it goes to far and you end up in hospital or dead. Your family obviously care about you so you have to make them aware of the situation. Get out of there and stay out.
2007-01-06 21:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Rusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lie and say you love him and all that crap and then wait til he's fast asleep, call 911 and hit him over the head with a baseball bat or something like that, then run like hell. Good luck, just get the hell out of there.
2007-01-06 20:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by tamitones1978 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should..just calm him down..talk wit him..i've nvr been in a situation like this..im realy sorry for you..if you want you can IM me or somethin like that..just plz..call your parents to get out of there...or call ur best friends and/or siblings and when he is sleeping..and u with him..pack ur bag..go to the bathroom..put a bottle under the toilet seat..get dressed..and when ur friendz r there..quietly..leave the house/apratment/ or watever u live in..make sure ur friendz have a bat with them so if they here him attacking you..they run in and save you..trust me i had to do that with my best friend..plz try it..this is ur life were talking about
2007-01-06 22:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by die romantic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cops
911
good luck!
2007-01-06 20:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got legs, start walkin
2007-01-06 20:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by ROFLies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋