What's the deal? When I was a "nice guy," I couldn't get laid in a whorehouse, but the louder and crazier I became, the more women were interested in me. This really doesn't make sense to me, and I fear I'm losing respect for women because of it. Can someone explain?
2007-01-06 12:41:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's the thing... Bad Boys are good for a quick screw. Nice guys are what we want for the long term.
So it depends what you want in the end.
2007-01-06 12:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by adazhia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See, what I believe, is that some women go for more 'out there' guys, just because they're easier to get. Personally, I prefer a nice guy, but it seems that nice guys don't go through as many women just because sometimes they tend to be shy and not as confident to walk up to a woman. And women, are usually shy in making the first move, so it's kind of a lose/lose situation. I bet you are losing some respect from some women. I suggest being nice and respectable if you want to commit to a serious relationship, otherwise, you're going to most likely encounter quite a few short relationships.
2007-01-06 12:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Savvy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, well, I WANT to say nice guys, but in all honesty that's not what seems to attract me. I mean, I don't like "bad" boys (actually, I hate 'em). Usually they're nice guys that just joke a lot. I mean, really nice guys are sometimes too worried to tease, which I find that one of my favorite things to do with my best guy friends is exchange teasing remarks and joking insults (it's funny. Me and my best guy friend have this inside joke where we throw awful insults at eachother before saying we love eachother. Lol, people are always confused by how we can turn such phrases into terms of affection). Yet, after teasing and stuff, they can turn around and be incredibly sweet, saying how they enjoy time together or complimenting me... Anyway, I guess it's moderate guys. Guys that are usually very joking, teasing, and fun, but express affection after you get to know them. Basically, there has to be balance. I hate extremes of either. Fun & respect are key. The guy has to be able to let loose, be spontaneous, play around, but not to the point where he becomes selfish and goes out of his way to get in trouble (ie, even the most physically attractive guy can be absolutley unattractive just by being into fights, drugs, alcohol, theft, etc).
2016-05-23 01:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women actually like a little bit of both. If you're the nice guy all the time, well that can get boring. We like a little excitement.
But if you're the bad boy all the time, we can get exhausted and just want something simple and nice for a while.
Your best bet is just to be yourself. We want to have fun and date McDreamy, but we also want someone who is human and has flaws. Its just a big mix of it all.
Its about the same with guy's opinion on women. You want the hot sexy temptress, but you also want someone who can be a good mother, and take care of the house and cook dinner.
Just be yourself, showing traits of the whole package.
2007-01-06 12:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a guy that has been through the same thing
Women don't nice guys, they are way too predicatible
bad guys, are unpredictable, always keep a women on her feet , This is attractive to women
It is something that is unconcoiusly that happens inside women.
Most women say they want a nice guy, but they are naturally attracted to unpredicatability
Why do you think women watch things like soap operas so much?
2007-01-06 12:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by arabontheloose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
personally - I will take a nice guy any time over a bad boy. As to an explanation maybe the same reason you guys go for the blond perfect petitte woman with the big boobs and the IQ of a gnat. Oh and she treats you like crap.
Why the double standard? Second time this week for this topic.
2007-01-06 12:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by goddess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maby its the kind of women your attracted to because i cant be with a guy that is loud and crazy. Maby try dating a girl that has had enough of being broken hearted. What ever just keep being a nice guy and never lose the respect.
2007-01-06 12:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an appropriate time and place for both!!
The most appropriate for "bad" is in the sack, which is why we go for the idiots that are acting "bad", we think they'll deliver. But as is the case with men who choose women for the wrong reasons, we also get what we bargained for.
Hardly worth the effort.
Keep being "nice" but get "bad" when appropriate (as well as appropriately), like when someone is threatening us. You'll get what you want to be sure.
Peace.
2007-01-06 12:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women want what they can't have generally, and they think that bad boys are harder to get for some reason. If you actually get to know them then they might like you more. I personally would have given you a chance but i dont know you, so.... what can I say? I'm a girl!!
2007-01-06 12:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by Who, Me?? ...I'm Lost... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah there's something exciting about guys that act a little crazy. But crazy guys attract wild girls too. If you're looking for a real relationship then girls go for nice guys.
2007-01-06 12:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋