What do you do when you are never included in your friends plans. But I'm sure they don't do it on purpose, they just don't think of me. I love my friends and they're great people, so I'm not looking to get new friends. This has always happened. So this leads me to believe it's not my friends, but ME that's the problem. How can I get included without seeming desperate and obnoxious?
2007-01-06 12:35:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The same thing has happended to me to, its not that your friends dont like you its jsut they have got into the habbit of doing stuff with other people so much. Try to be the one to make the plans so that you are automatticly included in whatever your doing. So at lunch or on the phone say "we should all do somthing friday" or somthing like that, saying that lets them know that your up to hang out and makes them remember to call you.
2007-01-06 12:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This situation sounds really familiar to me, because that used to be (and sometimes still is) me. My friends would be going out to see a new movie on the night it opened...and although they knew I wanted to see it too, they didn't invite me to go along with them, until they needed a ride. I was kind of annoyed that the only reason they invited me was so they could get there, but I got past that. I think with some people, you just need to be forward and ask if you can come, or at least hint at it. Most decent people won't say "no, you can't come!", especially if they're your friends. It's probably not that they don't want you there, it's just that they forgot about you when they were inviting people or something. The more you show up at different things your friends do together, the more likely they are to remember to invite you to do things in the future. Hope that works!
2007-01-06 20:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by jennabeanski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like it's on purpose. How do you forget to invite a friend all the time? Maybe they think you aren't interested in what they are doing. Let them know you would be interested next time they are talking about getting together to do something. You could make plans and invite them too.
2007-01-06 20:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe say hey guy's if you decide to do something I want to go ? Or you ask them to go with you somewhere ! -- Have you ever just simply said hey guy's why are you not inviting me ? If their your true friend's then you shouldn't be afraid to ask ! Just seems like there's something missing in your question ? To tell you the truth,from the way your question's Read's -- Their not true friend's period if they leave you out ? And it does sound like there leaving you out on purpose - I'm not at all trying to sound mean - and Please don't take it that way -- You just sound like you deserve more out of a friendship than what your settling for !! -- Good - Luck - -- Pattijo
2007-01-06 20:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blech. I know that feeling...
What if you tried organizing some events and planning some parties or outings? Other than that, maybe you should speak up a little more. You won't be obnoxious if your friends are talking about a trip or something and you nicely ask, "Where are you going?"
Good luck. =D
2007-01-06 20:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Irony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try taking each of them aside separately and letting them know that you are hurt when you don't get included in their plans. May be they each think you always have something better going on. Don't ask them all at once when they are together. Ask each separately to get an overall view. Just be honest about how you feel.
2007-01-06 20:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make plans and get them included on it. That way they will see that you are good at it too. Try inviting them all over and then calling them up before-hand to get ideas on things to do...pictionary, wine...a good movie, make popcorn...whatever they want. If they still do not include you, find someone else to hang out with maybe they will get the picture when you make plans that don't include them.
2007-01-06 20:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Ofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I don't know I am hardly ever included. I think I seem a bit desperate sometimes. Call them up ask them what hey are doing I guess.
2007-01-06 20:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a party and invite you some new friends.That's a bunch of crap that they don't mean to forget you.Come on Wake Up and smell the "ROSE" if my friends kept excluding me on things I would catch on QUICKER than lightning sticking.Hey find you some new friends.If they are treating you like that they weren't and aren't your friends in the first place.And besides when friends like that "Who" needs enemies?
2007-01-06 20:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meh, happens to me a bit. Mainly because most of my current friends have known each other longer than I've known them (I was a freshmen in college when I met them, some were juniors and one was a senior).
2007-01-06 20:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by Alibi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋