my mum died 11 years ago, ive given birth to 2 boys in the last 4 years, had bad and very bad post natal depression. and now have had enough and want help. it doesnt get better. help me please.
2007-01-06 12:32:06 · 23 answers · asked by feebe 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You should go see a therapist then. there is no magical fix. Therapy and/or anitdepressants would be a good solution. It will take time though.
2007-01-06 12:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by novae2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about the loss of your mom; even though it was 11 years ago I'm sure it's still very painful, especially since you know your boys won't see their grandma. Since you had the post-natal depression and are still feeling so bad you really need to see a therapist. Ask your doctor to refer to one and then you can get some treatment. Trust me, things will get better but you need to take that first step and get help.
Take care
2007-01-06 12:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. Depression after a mothers death is normal. After the children were born probably the number one thing you wanted to do was CALL MOM. BEEN THERE DONE THAT. Check your local paper there are often groups that talk about such things. Maybe if you can let it all out to someone you might be able to get past the major parts of losing a mom. They say time heals.Shoot whoever said that. It does not heal it deadens but it is always there.
2007-01-06 12:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by ambi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I know what you mean. My Mom passed away 17 years ago and I still miss her. She always lives in my heart, and she will never die as long as I live. She's my Guardian Angel that is always with me and watching over me. Your Mom wouldn't want you to be so sad that it affects your life and her grand children's life. She would want you to be happy and tell the kids all about her and keep her alive in their memory. If you are depressed it might be a good idea to see your doctor and he'll give you a mild medication to get you back on track. I'll be praying for you Honey.
2007-01-06 12:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Pearl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Feebe, So sorry about your Mother. It is a great loss to you and you need to get some help on easing your depression. Your Mother would not want you to grieve over her like this. She is gone and probably would not want to come back to earth. We all need to complete our walk on this earth. Only when it is our time, can we leave. It is not our decision, but God's . Call your Community Health Office. They can direct you and do it for the sake of your Sweet Little Boys. They deserve the best care you can give to them. Your Mother would not want for you to remain depressed. My Mother died on June 16, 2006. I am depressed too, but it does not help. We can think of our Mothers off and on, but we must go on to do our duties to our family. You don't want for your Little Boys to be without a Mother, so you must take good care of yourself and your children. Be strong. Go seek some help. You will be so happy and Thankful, when you do. Take care and may God bless you and yours, Always!!
2007-01-06 12:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Death takes a lot to get over and I'm sorry but there is nothing anyone can do to take away your pain. The only thing that can heal is time. and honestly only time will help so much... you will always have the memories so... why stress it. you had them as long as you had her and you should be lucky for the years you had her... be greatful.. try not to bring it up to much it brings back too many memories.
2007-01-06 12:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by browneyedchick679 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are saying.I lost my mother when i was 13 and lost my dad when i was 19 and lost my grandmother at 27. And it has been hell cause i also have had a little boy and it makes me mad they cain't be here for him to see him grow up it sucks. I don't think we will ever get over the fact that they are dead and an't coming back and that hurts like crap. So you just need to try to move on with your life and take care of your self and those glorious little boys cause you know for a fact that's what she would of wanted for you to do. Always remember you don't have to get over it you just have to move on with it.In a positive and healthy way for you and those baby's. So best of luck to you and family my thoughts and preys are with you.
2007-01-06 12:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie_kanode 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh, i so understand. my mom died 20 years ago, and i miss her all the time. when it first happened, i went to group grief counseling. it was a group just for adults who lost their parents. it did help. i still miss her. i know she is with me in my heart.
when tragedy hits, i find writing helps. to write a letter of your feelings, like a letter to your mom. then to burn it to release it.
there is no easy way. you must see her in your sons. you see her in yourself. i know i do. i am sure that a big part of your post natal depression was missing your mom, and wishing she were there to see your babies, and to lend a helping hand, a word of encouragement.
call the local hospital, see if they offer any grief counseling. i bought an audio tape called daughters without mothers. it was helpful. if you need it, i can get it to you.
blessings to you and yours..
2007-01-06 12:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by darlin12009 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes a long time my brother died at 14 back in 1979 and it took me at least 8 or 9 years to recover I hope thing get better for you
2007-01-06 12:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by Fred S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be so hard to get over, and im sure nobody blames you for your depression and sadness. Its hard to just get over things like that, but the only thing i can offer to you would be therapy. Sometimes all you need is someone to talk to.
Good Luck!
2007-01-06 12:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by blondie_879 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Few of us can ever get over losing a mom, at any age.
Counseling gives you someone to talk to about your real feelings, and every place has free or sliding-scale clinics you can go to.
Try to feel better.
2007-01-06 12:40:15 · answer #11 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋