my boyfriend keeps telling me he loves me.. it is always in a time when i don't have to reply. i have never said i love you back to him. we have only been going out for a month and i know that sometime i will end up having to say i love you to him. but i am not i sure i really do love him... any tips? i don't think he understands the real meaning of love.
2007-01-06 12:29:55 · 28 answers · asked by 4ever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you aren't sure don't say it. If there comes a time when you feel it necessary to say it, explain to him how you feel.
2007-01-06 12:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by tootsie1115 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. For some people it only takes a month to figure it out. Other people may need more time, lets say a few months or a year. You should never say something just because the other person expects it, especially if you don't mean it yet. When he says that he loves you (in an awkward moment when it's your cue to respond) just ask "what makes you love me?" That way you can hear his mind of why he's convinced that he already loves you. That and it will put the ball back into his court. And you're probably wondering, what if he's throws the ball back into my court? What do I say then? Explain that you don't use that phrase lightly, and want to be 100% sure that the relationship and time is right when you decide to start saying it. If he feels rejection in some way, make it clear that you do care about him and want to be with him, you just want the relationship to unfold beautifully, not in such a hurry. Until then, just say "I adore you" or similiar phrases so that he doesn't feel like its one-sided.
2007-01-06 12:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had a boyfriend he started whispering "I love you" to me during movies and at other random times. The first time I didn't say it back because I was so surprised, but then I started saying it whenever he said it to me. Now when I look back, I think that I was a little to hasty with saying it. I didn't actually love him, I was only saying it because he was and I didn't want to make him feel dissapointed or awkward! It's not significant enough to make me really regret it, but I still wish I hadn't. It sounds like you're reluctant to say it too because you don't know exactly how you feel for this guy. I suggest you don't say it until you actually feel that way. But definitely still tell him how much he means to you and that you care for him a lot. Best of luck!
2007-01-06 12:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by jennabeanski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you know sometimes in a relationship you first start out everything is cool and then one might love the other one to its heart and the other one might not that means that there the the ones that god but up as a perfect couple so i would say just take it easy and tell him how you feel i mean i was in something like that and i just said it like that and at first he was like really sad and then next week i was like shocked cuz he had a girlfriend! already and then the next day he told me not to worry cuz he really didnt know how to love and now that he does he said that its tottaly differant so ya thats what i say!
good luck and i hope you try to do what i did!
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2007-01-06 12:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many types of love. And if you're not ready to tell him, then don't. People throw the word "love" around all the time like it's just a word. Next time he says it, ask him what is it that he loves about you? It could simply mean he loves everything about you. Then you'll know if you're able to say it back.
2007-01-06 12:37:13 · answer #5 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes boyfriends tell you they love you just to see what you will do. i had a friend who's bf did told her this after 1 week. turns out that he only told her that to see if it would make her feel guilty about not saying it back so that maybe she would be vulnerable and be in a position where she would do stuff with him... they are 14 & 16... i don't know how old you n ur bf are, but this could possibly be his moitvation for telling you this i guess
2007-01-06 12:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Doz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think he really understands the real meaning of the I love you phrase. Next time he says it, asks him how come he knows he loves you and what is it about you that he loves? That question will help him to search his heart and see whether or not he really does love you or if it is just infatuation and hormones talking.
2007-01-06 12:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont feel it, or if the feeling isnt screaming out of you, dont say it.
never do anything you are uncomfortable with, and NEVER do or say somehting out of pity in a relationship.
my best advice is to talk to him about slowing things down a bit and seeing where things go from here without saying i love you.
there is such thing as falling in love that soon, BUT it could also be infatuation or lust because of how short you two have been dating.
2007-01-06 12:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, if you love him as a friend. Then you can say it back..
But in all honesty, if you don't love the guy, let him know you're not ready to say "I love you" so soon in the relationship. If you don't start with communication now, you won't have it later.
2007-01-06 12:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to wonder if you are in love...than your not...and you should never say it just because you feel you have to reciprocate because someone else has said it...it's not fair to you or them. Let it run its natural course...you may fall in love...or you may not. Just stay honest with yourself and him...but if he really is more serious about you than you are him....you may need to step back and evaluate the situation...perhaps he is not someone you really should be with and should step away before his feelings are more hurt and before you feel even more pressured to say or do something you shouldnt
2007-01-06 12:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by silentscreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not love him, then do not say you love him, you are right, him saying I love you after only a month of going out is a little weird...
2007-01-06 12:33:18 · answer #11 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋