I cheated on my boyfrined, well hes my ex for now, but i cheated on him like almost a year ago and I told him thats not me and ill never do it again, but we always get into these arguments about it because he cant just try to forgive me!!!! Hes the best thing that has ever happened to me and I just want to be happy with him now and try, but he acts like hes gonna give me a chance then he doesn't... i know its my fault but for god sakes!
2007-01-06 12:17:50 · 12 answers · asked by IluvthisBoy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, i would just give up on the relationship because you have destroyed all trust by cheating. that is just what happens. you can only do so much to show him that you have learned your lesson. however, he will never get over that-- i am sure. it hurt him too much. so, i would move on with your lives & make the best of future relationships.
it is just a lose lose situation & no one wins. that is why cheating is such a relationship destroyer.
in the future, i would suggest not letting yourself get into situations where you could cheat. you have to have boundaries with other guys. you just have to keep a certain distance from other guys-- whether it be physical, etc. for example, if you feel the slightest bit of temptation, get out of that situation. that is how people keep themselves from cheating-- they don't get caught up in the heat of the moment because they don't let it get to that point.
it is good that you learned your lesson though. many people don't & become repeat offenders.
2007-01-06 12:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's been a year and he is still pining over what you did, then he probably will never forgive you. Try moving on, even though it's going to be hard. You may realize that the reason you cheated on him to begin with is still there. Next time, please consider all of the bad things that can come out of cheating...disease, hurt...but since you have asked repeatedly for forgiveness and he won't forgive, you are growing older and wasting valuable time waiting for something that may never happen. You should definately sit him down and tell him that you are moving on and hope that he finds someone who will not hurt him the way you have. And then you can even give him a little time to think...alone. No calling, writing, driving by his place...none of that. If he comes back, then he will probably never mention that other guy again. If not, then move on and don't cheat anymore, especially if you know you love the person, there really is no reason worth not talking about first. Good luck.
2007-01-06 12:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you are describing he no longer trusts you. It's very hard to repair trust when someone cheats. It's mighty big of you to own up to a past mistake. However if he can't forgive you, do both you and your ex a favor and move on. You deserve to be with a guy that doesn't keep bringing up your past mistakes, and he deserves to be with some he feels he can trust. Right now I don't see either happening. Good luck to you.
2007-01-06 12:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look you ask him for forgiveness so you done your part. Now its time to just sit back and pray. If he takes you back then be happy if not then just try to figure out how your gonna move on. He probably has an issue with trust. When you cheated on him you broke his heart and that is something you dont want to do to anybody. These things take time to heal so you have to give it time. Just be patient with him.
2007-01-06 12:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically it's your fault for cheating on him. You should think carefully about what you did to him. I betcha it hurt _pretty_ bad to know your girlfriend went behind your back and lied. He's not gonna trust you immediately after that, ya know. Common sense. Once bitten, twice shy. And ya know what? Maybe it isn't always all about you. If he's the best thing that has ever happened to ya, how come you cheated on him in the first place?
2007-01-06 12:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by xsail_our_van_eltiax 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is still talking about it after a year, chances are he will never stop talking about it. You have to make a decision to deal with hearing it every now and then, or leaving him for good.
2007-01-06 12:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by Allectronic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a similar situation i met a girl who was in a 7month relationship and she broke up with him and the next day we were together. it ended up not working out but a few days before we broke up she cheated on me with him. we broke up and a few months later we hooked back up this was about a year ago, were still together and in love at first i would bring it up because i was hurting but now i never say anything it still hurts to think about but i dont say anything because i dont want to guilt her. the reason he keeps bringing it up is because hes insecure and it hurt him, this shows that he loves and cares about you and if u feel the same way talk it out and tell him how it makes u feel when he exploads on you about it. tell him if he wants to talk about it to get past it ok but if hes just looking for a fight then he should just keep it to himself.
2007-01-06 12:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by yurbuddy04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just give up. Do you want to live the rest of your relationship with this guy feeling guilty all the time? I know it doesn't sound like a great time to me.
2007-01-06 12:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by spotted_moofers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should have broke up with you in the first place. ur lucky you got a second chance,but you dont deserve this guy. he's too good for you. and if he WAS the best thing that happened to you,why'd you mess up???
2007-01-06 12:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by Savannah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be horsewhipped. You are defiled. You can never be trusted again. By anyone.
2007-01-06 12:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by Phuque E 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋