My neighbor is so nice, and she just lost her husband to lung cancer that spread into his brain. He passed away the day after Christmas. At the wake, she told me she wanted me to visit her, and I told her I'd be glad to! I love spending time with her and her family. Everyone I know in her family is just so sweet, I feel like they are my family, because my family on my dad's side is mean to me.
Anyways, when I go visit her, what topics should I stick to while conversing with her?
Thanks!
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2007-01-06 12:16:11 · 5 answers · asked by Sally 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just be yourself. warm, loving and caring. don't worry on what topics - it will come easy when you are with her and her family. follow her lead and help her to face whatever she opens up to you. be supportive, and receptive to whatever SHE wants to discuss - this is a time for her - and she will want to talk and really all you'll have to do is listen and be understanding. don't be afraid - it will come easy once you are with her. just follow her lead and make her feel loved and comfortable with you being with her. that's all she will need. good luck and just remember to say a pray for her husband.
2007-01-06 12:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some bereaved people like to talk about their loss. It helps them through the grieving process. All you have to do is listen. Take some cookies or something with you so that when she answers the door, you can start by saying "I made these so we can share them over tea (or coffee or whatever)" then just relax and enjoy her company. She will enjoy yours, expecially if you let her talk about her husband and the many joyful years they had together. Extending your condolances and asking where they met, how long they were married, and saying that her happy memories will sustain her should make for a pleasant visit.
2007-01-06 12:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Bud B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is helpful to talk about her husband but she will take you where she wants to go so follow her lead. You could ask to see pictures of him, she may want to tell her how they met. Don't act like it never happened. the grief process can take one to two years, she will need a lot of support. Thanks for taking care of her.
2007-01-06 13:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she must be sad at the moment so funny topics will make her feel atleast abit happy...just talk about funny things that happens to u in ur work or with ur partner
2007-01-06 12:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by Tara 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about anything. Ask her how she is doing. If she wants to talk about her husband, she will.
2007-01-06 12:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋