I am so angry at her for her ignorance. She caught her boyfriend cheating, so she left him and moved all of her belongings home. Well. she was misreable, so she moved back in with her cheating, drunk boyfriend and left her clothes behind. I am so angry at her. She turned 19 today. She has no job, no car, no money, not hardly able to support herself and I need her to grow up a little. Should I burn her clothes or bag them up and toss them in the basement? I feel like she uses my goodness and then craps all over me when her boyfriend comes around.
2007-01-06 12:12:34 · 13 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Bag them up. She'll be back.
2007-01-06 12:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by Allectronic 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well even though your daughter is making bad choices and she doesn't show very good decision making, she is your daughter.
I would first calm down and after the anger calms down then you need to talk to her explain that you are worried about her and the relationship she has with the guy, that you love her and want her to be happy,and that you will be there for her BUT you are not going to have your life and home turned upside down every time they have problems and that if she is going to stay with him they need to work there problems out without involving the family and don't burn her stuff tell her to come and get them if she doesnt put them in trash bags and throw them in the basement, she will probebly need them and you, when she has truely had enough of the drinking and cheating
2007-01-06 13:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by kathy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is talk to her, you were young once, probably made similar or even worse mistakes. Don't talk like a parent, nor like a friend, you need to find the middle ground. Let her know how you feel, figure out whats going on with her, and talk to her about a cheating boyfriend. I doubt they have dated long, or have something amazing, everyone can always do better, probably also has low self esteem.
Best of luck and do go overboard, act like an "adult".
2007-01-06 12:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by yourlordandsavoirjesushchrist 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
give her a time darling..and make sure u dont show her that u r angry ,believe me am 19yrs old and my mom would always keep sayin that she doesnot like the way i live and that makes me even more stubborn and when ever i get into trouple the last person i go to is my mom,u try to spend time with her,show her that no matter what she does u r still proud of her and u will always be there for her..when ever she does somethin makes u angry remember that she is not happy about it either and blaming her will make her feel even worser
about her clothes keep them with u till she comes and take them
2007-01-06 12:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by Tara 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should keep her clothes. Even though she is considered an adult she is only 19 and will do dumb things. It's good for her to know that no matter what she does she has a mother who loves her and that is there for her. Your home is her rock to lean on. All young people need that especially young women who enter abusive relationships.
2007-01-06 12:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know you are angry with her but please remenber she is your daughter and young and foolish.Your daughter has no money?Well she wont be able to afford to buy new clothes.Just put them away until she comes back for them.You would be immature to burn good clothes.
2007-01-06 12:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you will give her a 2 day deadline and if she does not come for her stuff, donate it.
yes, you are her mom and i see others are suggesting you keep her stuff and be patient. forget that. if you start putting up with her using you as her safety net all the time she is never going to learn how to treat people.
2007-01-06 12:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by atlas shrugged and so do i 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with a previous poster. Tell her she has a specific length of time to get her stuff and if she doesn't, then you will get rid of it. Remind her that you are her parent, not her guardian and your house is not her storage unit.
2007-01-06 15:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bag them up. She will be back. Be kind. She needs help. You need to think very hard about where she learned this behavior.
2007-01-06 12:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
donate the clothes to the needy.
2007-01-06 12:17:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋