I am 14 with a light brown hair. I want to get it a bit darker, but my mom won't let me.?

Question

How can I talk to her about it? I don't want it permanent(sp?) I am afraid she will get mad at me for asking her about it.

Answer 1

well most moms will accept the way u want to look and if she doesnt want u to, then just listen and wait till ur older

Answer 2

A safe way to dye your hair, which your mom may agree to because it's not permanent, BUT may seem a hassle to some, is to use henna. My mom is using it now b/c she went through chemo and now that her hair is coming back gray, the doctors said not to use chemicals. She loves it, it's basically plant pigments or something... For example, indigo makes your hair black, and paprika makes it reddish. It comes out maybe after a week or two so you would have to redo it probably more often than permanent dye, but it will not harm your scalp like those horrible chemicals can do. If you have a large sink or utility sink it's probably easier, but a normal sink with towls around it to protect from drippings would be fine too. You have to be careful to let your hair dry all the way or else it will drip onto things and stain them. My mom just wears sweats or something she doesn't care about and puts a towl around her shoulders. I don't know what pigment she uses, but it starts out light brown and then turns into a really cool funky purplish color after a week and a half. It doesn't look bad at all like you would think, it's a cool new look for her. I would do research online to find out more, I googled a webpage that talks a lot about it if you're interested, I'm putting it in the sources below. Hope I helped a little!

Answer 3

Sit down with her, calmly and maturely ask about you getting your hair colored. If she says no, try to see things from her perpective: Why exactly is she saying no? Is it because of age? Money? Her being worried about your hair getting damaged? When you look at things this way it'll help you understand her better and show that you're maturing into a wonderful young woman.

If she's worried about you damaging your hair try to look into using semi-permanent hair color. It'll either be a liquid or a mousse. It's not that harsh in the way of chemicals especially since you'd be going a little darker and can be washed out of your hair. There's also this hair treatment that'll make your hair shinier without changing your hair color. I prefer Clairol products myself... Otherwise you could go to a reputable salon.

If she's worried about $ the in-store stuff costs less than $10 in most cases. A salon visit plus tip might run about $50 though. You could easily earn that doing extra chores around the house or for the neighbors.

If she's worried about you doing this at an early age, you might just have to live with that for the time being. You should change things about yourself because YOU want to, not because everyone else is.

I hope that this advice helps not only in this situation but with those to come.

Answer 4

Well you could start by arming yourself with the information about the product you want to use and having all the facts at your fingertips so you can answer any question.
Next, have a look at your behaviour - make a list of ways that you might annoy your mum and also of ways that you could make life easier for her. Try to do as much of the latter and as little of the former as possible, and keep this up steadily for about a month, and then pick your moment - ie when she is relaxed and not stressing about anything, maybe when you are having quality time just you and her, and then try asking her again.

A good tip might be to ask her if you can do it at the start of your next school holidays so that if it is bad it will have washed out before you start school again. Try to think of all the objections she might raise and have an answer ready. As with any campaign, the more preparation you do the better your chance of success.

Answer 5

Talking to your mom about it honestly is the first thing to do. A good idea is to ask her if you can try something NOT permanent... she will be more likely to say yes. Also, if you are able, go on photoshop and create an example of what your hair would look like a bit darker.
Then she can see what you're gettin at! (^_^)

Good Luck!

Answer 6

I had the same difficult situation with my mom! I finally convinced her with the help from my aunt though (my aunt is a beautician). I just dyed my hair dark red actually for the first time in late October, I'm dying it back to brown tonight though because it faded.

If you want to convince your mom, tell her that you aren't going to have time in the future to experiment with your hair because you would be too old to be doing that. Also, the hair color you want to dye it to is not offensive, you're only dying it a little darker to try on a new look. You're still young, you should be enjoying life's simple pleasures while they still last, that includes dying your hair! Tell her it's no harm, it's not going to hurt, it's not offensive, and it's very simple. and of course add on a big ppppllleeeaasssee with a kiss and a hug, haha. Good luck!

Answer 7

Try John Freida's color gloss for dark brunette shades. You use it in the shower when you wash your hair and it darkens it gradually. I'm using it to darken my highlights to blend with my naturally dark brown hair and it seems to be working! There's also dark brunette shampoo and conditioner which would probably intensify the effect.

Answer 8

You can buy temporary hair dye, like the ones they sell for halloween which will wash out once you wash your hair, so this way you can experience what it would be like to have the hair color you want without giving your mom a heart attack.

Answer 9

There's Henna for hair... and it's completely natural and not harmless.... I think that would be a good idea... it washes out eventually too... research it and talk to you mom about it... it's much more healthier than regular hair dye.

Answer 10

Ask for it, she says no, then no it is. Wait til your 18 and living on your own.

Don't whine and throw fits, it will make you so immature!

Bad finances now can be a VERY good reason given by your mother. LISTEN!