ok. c i like this guy, and i met him a year ago. He goes 2 another school, and i only c him once a week. So, we almost started dating, and idk what happened, but he started dating a girl that goes 2 his school(which i hereis VERY stuck up) Well, usually we're flirtin and all over each other, and a couple of weeks ago, on a church trip, in the van we started holdin hands. But, hes still gotta gf. idk if i should go 4 hin or not. it kinda feels wrong, but i still luv him...what should i do?
2007-01-06 12:06:25 · 10 answers · asked by Hoooly Joooooly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honest answer kid?
O.k. Its true at your age, most relationships are statistically temporary. That said.
1) Don't look at other schools as being stuck up or not. Being judgemental like that closes your mind and makes you easier to get hurt or hurt others later.
2) If he has another girl friend, don't flirt with him. Majority of guys do have capacity, (i assume your at innocent stage), to even sleep with one girl while being more "loyal" to the other. If she is his gf, you are probably the other but in either case do you want to be in this mess.
SET YOUR STANDARDS HIGH AND RESPECT YOURSELF.
If I guy wants to date you, make it clear, he's got to be exclusively loyal to you. This will make you MUCH more atttractive to guys in the long term and will mean they will treat you better. If they think you have no standards they will feel less guitly about hurting you. Also, YOU DONT WANT TO DEAL WITH A JEALOUS GF. Nothing is more scary than pissing off another girl in that way. Serious.
So, stop flirting. Just be FRIENDLY to the guy. Walk tall and without feeling guilty etc.
IT FEELS WRONG BECAUSE IT IS WRONG. With guys if you don't trust your instincts sometimes you can get in all kinds of messy relationships. (Instincts are woman's main protection for avoiding abusive relationships as well.)
I feel for you. You are young. Flirting is fun but flirt with somebody single.
2007-01-06 12:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by rostov 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him alone. As much as most girls hate to acknowledge it, if a guy doesn't ask you out, it's not because he's shy, taking it slow, trying to save the friendship, or scared. If he doesn't ask you out, he doesn't want you...for whatever reason. If he wanted you as a gf, you would be his gf. But he didn't, which is why the other girl has that title. Now, if you throw yourself at his feet, he might take what you are so willingly making available, but he's going to treat you like something that was thrown at his feet. On top of that, if you're dirty enough to go after him when he has a gf, he's never going to trust you and you would be crazy to ever trust him. Karma is a mf. Walk away, figure out why you're willing to settle for less than you deserve, and then put that energy into attracting someone that wants you as his first choice. Peace.
2007-01-06 12:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sheon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I have heared of this guy, he is dirty cheater. If you go with him you will be hurt really badly. I don't think he desirves to date a girl like you. I am sure you can find a lot better of a choice then John. Take for example, I like Chris. He is sweet, funny, and single, and his sister says he likes me.
2007-01-06 14:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea luvs u...maybe...lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to go after a guy you know is dating another girl. You can do better than that. Here's some advice no PC(personal contact) at first. Please no sex before marriage, I promise, if you have sex before marriage you will regret it, I promise. If you don't believe me ask someone in leadership at your church, and have them show you a bible passage to back up what they tell you.
2007-01-06 12:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kurt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keeping doing what youre doing..maybe he just wants a gf at his school so peolpe won't think hes a loser or something..
2007-01-06 12:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by Synthetic Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to leave him alone and find somebody else. he belongs to someone else right now,no matter if YOU or any body else thinks she is "stuck up." its his choice and if he decides to leave this girl you can go for him. but until then,go your own way.
2007-01-06 12:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by Savannah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you guys shouldn't start dating now, but u should talk to him and try to get him to see that your the girl he needs in his life. Once he realizes this you guys can finally be together!!!
2007-01-06 12:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
don't go for him. that's kinda sleezy to go for another girl's guy- no matter how much you like him. if he wants you, he should break up with his girlfriend.
2007-01-06 12:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by girl. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he went to another school because your's obviously doesn't teach spelling.
2007-01-06 12:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
keep flirting, and ask him about his gf, maybe he'll see he deserves you or something
2007-01-06 12:17:28 · answer #10 · answered by goesonyahooanswerswhenbored 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋