My son is 21 months and i'm thinking of having another, does anyone have any opinions on the best age gap? I want them to be close in age, but hate the thoughts of running after toddler and being pregnant, also financial matters etc.
2007-01-06 11:47:25 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Hi.
I had my second in June 06 and my daughter was two in the April. Being pregnant and running around after her was fine, a little tiring somedays, but at the beginning of the pregnancy,she helped me through the morning sickness, i had to get on with it because dad was working! Also i found the birth came round alot quicker, couldnt sit and ponder what might be, had no time- thats an advantage too
When my son was born all i could think about was how i'd cope with the two of them, but 8 months later we are doing ok! Some days are difficult when my son is teething etc and wants all my attention, then my daughter wants the attention, but i give her lots when baby isn't around!
As for financially, your find its not that bad, clothes wouldnt be an issue if you have another boy. I had alot of white and cream, which my son wears now. Your son might be potty trainning soon which means only buying nappies for the new baby-
It would all work out!
Good luck
Cat(uk)
2007-01-09 00:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by cgiggler3010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart is the best time clock. I have almost 5 years between the 1st two. Not by choice, and 14 1/2 months between #'s 2 and 3. The first gap was toooo big and frankly the gap between the last two was too close while I was pregnant but.....the young ones were like twins, tighter than you can imagine. Just in the last year the boys 15 and 19 have gotten closer as the age gap wasn't as big a deal. If they are too far apart they don't have much in common. With children it's usually follow your heart, all the other stuff can be dealt with.
2007-01-06 12:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Frustrated Dodge owner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children are 4 years apart and i think i would have liked a closer age gap. At the end of the day, you are the one to look after the children all day, so if u want to have another now, go for it. As for being tierd when pregnant and running around with a toddler, your body and mind are able to cope. It wont be too much because u dont have the option of giving up. I always slept and was constantly tierd when expecting my first, but with my second pregnancy i made sure i was in bed my 9pm on the dot so i got the rest i needed. Finance wont really matter because u already have most of the things you need from your first child.
2007-01-06 11:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a three year age gap between my sister and I and we fought like cat and dog growing up, it was horrendous! Nowadays it's nice though, we are more like friends then sisters, although we do have our moments. There was a seven year age gap between my brother and I and we have always been enormously close, I was really able to participate in his growing up and kind of 'mothering' him a bit. I now have a six year old and a three year old. There were no problems that I experienced from being pregnant and having a toddler, but the one issue that I experience is jealousy. I have two boys and the older one often gets jealous of the younger one and causes fights, saying that though they can play together and have fun which might not be so easy with a bigger age gap.
Best of Luck x
2007-01-06 11:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by doodlenatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is 21 months too but im waiting til hes at least 6 before i have another child but that is only because i want to go to college first. i think a good age gap is about 3-4 years because they will be able to understand a bit more why mummy needs to take care of the baby, and also you can give them little jobs to do so they dont feel left out (pass you the clothes, nappy etc) also if you have another child when your son is about 4 he'll have been at nursery since age 3 (in the uk) and you would have had a year of free afternoons/mornings to have a bit of time to yourself to do shopping etc without a toddler throwing tamtrums! also, say you fell pregnant when your son was about 3, at least you would get a break and be able to rest your tired pregnant body whilst hes at nursery!
2007-01-09 00:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by mummy_of_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey
me and my brother were 27 months apart i was born in april 86 and he was born in july 88. we had our issues when we were younger but now we are really great mates.
On the other hand my cousins are 6 years and 10 months apart, that was good in a way because the eldest was already at school by the time the youngest was on the scene, however it did mean that as soon as the youngest could recgonise this he would cry for Britain because he wanted to go with her or wanted her to stay home with him.
If you wait about a year and he'll be in nursery/preschool (whatever comes before year 1) then you'll only have to chase one for a few hours a day.
2007-01-06 13:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Hannie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age gap between my first and second child is 4 years, we have just had a third child and the age gap between second and third child is 3 years.We are finding it alot more difficult this time as my 3 year old is very jelous and is now getting up in the night at least 6 times.So i think 4 years is about right as we had no problems last time.
2007-01-06 21:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by JODIE M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is no real right time. there are 4 1/5yrs between the two. I will say that the older adores the younger. I wanted to leave it so that my first had had his attention and he was going to school so he was not too resentful. As my husband was the younger brother and there were only two years between him and his brother and his brother resented him for coming along but only time will tell.
My friend had two within 2 1/5 years and she said that it was hard work for her for the first couple of years but she has more freedom now...
There's never a right time financially as well you know you just cope...
Good luck I hope that helps...
2007-01-06 20:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say 2-3 1/2 years apart. Then you have them both out of diapers, but they are close enough to really enjoy each other. Any closer it is like having twins when you go passed 4, it is a big adjustment for you, having to deal with diapers, and all of the baby stuff again. I know that one first hand also.
2007-01-06 12:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mis I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I don't think that any ones financially ready for a baby. They're just expensive little people! I have 2 children. They are 9 years old.I have one Stepson and one biological daughter. I think that it would be crazy for me to have another baby, but I want one. So my answer to your question is if you want another baby-have one. I don't think the age between them really matters. Having a new baby will always be a wonderful yet overwhelming experience.
2007-01-06 12:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by L.L. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋