bf language bothering me, help!!!?

Question

when my bf and i get into an argument he always says: do what you fuc**** want, or i dont give a sh*t : and it hurts because its like if he really doesnt give a crap about me. what can i do to make him realize this or what can i do to make myself not feel so hurt by his comment

Answer 1

Your boyfriend is very immature, and is not very good at communication. When he is not angry, you might try to talk to him. Tell him that you are hurt by his words, and tell him that you feel like crap by the way he deals with his anger. He might not change, but at least you have your say.

Most importantly, don't put up with someone who does not respect your feelings.

Answer 2

I really don't know for sure, because people are different about this, especially guys. I know that the few times I've done this in an argument with a woman (which I'm not proud of), I did it to try to make her realize how strongly I felt about my own position, because at the time it seemed like she had no feelings about my own thoughts or feelings. Your bf may not have the same problem expressing himself or feeling selfworth that I did, but just in case, perhaps you could try to talk to him about things. Try to make a new years resolution not to argue loudly, but to argue in as calm a voice as possible.

Answer 3

Hes a guy, most guys cant deal well with arguments. Hes probably just lashing out because whatever your arguing about, hes in the wrong. Im a guy, i love my gf alot, but sometimes id say f*** this, or f*** that, just to get out of an awkward argument. Its wrong, and i know it doesnt solve anything, but sometimes you need to just get out of a situation without thinking it through.

If he really cares about you, tell him you have an issue with it and see what he says.

Answer 4

Your best bet is to find someone else...

If he said what he said without actually meaning them, he will come around and apologize.. but based on how you describe the situation, it doesn't seem like your bf realizes what he's really doing by making rude and inapproperiate comments

Answer 5

Let him know how you feel, don't just let him continue making you feel like crap. No man is worth it, if he can't be decent towards you, argument for not.
If you don't make this clear now, it's not going to stop, but only get worst.

Answer 6

People use foul language to intimidate during arguments. This shows a lack of verbal skills on his part. My advice would be to dump him and find a guy who will respect you.

Answer 7

let him know you are hurt by these harsh words. Speak to him in the kindest way you can ,if he likes it and it makes him feels good, then let him know this is how you would also like to feel. Unfortunately if he has no respect for you or for himself he might not care how you feel.You need to tell youself that you are special and unique you dont need a man of your friends to feel special or appreciated. LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF.

Answer 8

Tell him that you are going to break up with him. If he truely cares about you he won't let you do that. Tell him that it hurts, and if he says "whatever" or something dump him, he's not worth it.

Answer 9

The thing that you can do to make him realise this is -- TELL HIM. How much simpler can it get? And If he doesn't get the point, find someone else.

Answer 10

let him know that you dont like it. and every time he speaks to you like that point it out and say dont talk to me like that. if he doesnt get the hint than change your bf.