I'm worried about my dad.?

Question

I found out that my dad watches porn and he cheated on my mom and he mentally abuses me and he lies ALL the time about stupid stuff that makes no difference if he lied about it or not. He's already pushed my 12 year old brother down twice. Should I worry that he might hurt me some day?

Answer 1

Sounds like he has some issues. It's hard to say whether he would actually physically hurt someone, but he could as he verbally abuses people. Talk to an adult you trust, maybe an aunt or uncle, a counselor. He needs counseling, but he will have to decide for himself about letting it work.

Answer 2

No do not worry about it. Worry just cripples our emotions and our actions. Be aware that he may do something wrong and if he does make sure you have someone to tell. As for the mental abuse, you know what he says is not true. Guard that with your heart and nothing he says will hurt you. What he is really saying when he is hurtful is that he thinks so poorly of himself that he rejects love everywhere. That is not your fault and there is not anything you can do about it but continue to love him. Loving him does not mean accepting what he does wrong or allowing it to go on without telling anyone. If it gets to where he is harming you or your brother then tell someone and refuse to come home with him there. The police should support your decision and take you to another family members home.

Answer 3

Of course you should be worried. He's already mentally abusing you, physically abusing your brother and cheating on your mother. To top it off ... he's a liar as well. Sounds like he really needs to get some professional help. I think you should talk to your mom about your concerns (if you haven't already) and find another place to live until he can straighten out his issues .... or just leave him behind for good. You don't need those kind of issues in your life and neither does your mother or brother.

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 4

Yes, you should stay clear of him and call child protective services. I would also be concerned about you Mom. She needs help. She is obviously not strong enough to get the help she needs for herself and her children. You need to let someone know what is going on. You did not say how old you were so I don't know if you are school age. I am assuming you are. Go to your guidance counselor or the nurse or a trusted teacher at school. This situation will not get better on its own. You need some help. Please do this, not only for you but for your mom and brother as well. It may be scary and it may seem to get worse at first. Your mom might get mad at you and your brother might get mad. They may put you in foster care for a while but in the years to come your brother and mother and hopefully your father will thank you.

Answer 5

I am sorry that you have to live with this. Does your mom know that he cheated on her? Are they even still together? I have an abusive step dad. I don't live with him anymore, but he has cheated on my mom, he broke her wrist, and he used to beat up my brothers. I honestly don't get what my mom sees in him. It started out small, with pushing and things, but a few months ago he punched my younger brother (18) in the face, and gave him a black eye. But he has never hurt me or my sister, but has come close. He would push us, and scream and spit in our face, but he has never done real damage. But any of this is WRONG, and should absolutely not be tolerated. You can try to talk to your mom about it, but if she is anything like my mom, she will not listen and try to protect your dad. But i hope she is concerned, and does something about this. My siblings and i have called the cops on my step dad a number of times, but that never helped. My mom would always lie for my step dad to get him out of htings. Maybe a counseler or thereapist will help, and they also might be able to tell you how to deal with this. But i think you and your brother should get away from him before he does more damage. Psychological damage is just as bad, and sometimes worse than physical abuse. I am so sorry for your situation, and i hope you find help.

Answer 6

I think that he has already hurt you and your family emotionally. I don't think that watching porn is such a big deal, but cheating on your mom is UNACCEPTABLE. So is pushing down your brother unless your brother attacked him with violence of some sort. Lying is bad. The fact that you are observant and questioning this behavior of his is a good sign. Resolve to yourself that you will treat your future family differently. Try to convince your mom to seek counseling. Good luck to you, and keep asking!

Answer 7

You need to talk to your Mom about how you are feeling and how scared you are--she is being abused along with the rest of you--You all need to find a safe place to live until he gets some help --Maybe your Mom doesn't know how upset you are and maybe she needs some support in making the right decision--can you talk to your grandparents or another relative??? It's highly possible they will help too---Most will if family is in a bad situation that could be harmful--and it sounds like yours is--

Answer 8

If your Dad is abusing your brother. You should contact CPS (Child Protective Services)

Answer 9

He sounds like an ***. Talk to your mom about it and steer clear of him as much as possible. If he continues, talk to a guidance counselor at school.

Answer 10

yes.go 2 court he should be arrested if u report that 2 a police station they will test him w/ a lie detector then that way he cant lie anymore and will be reported 2 a session at court. GET HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELP!!!