How do you get up the nerve?

Question

How do I get up the nerve to ask a guy out? This guy could have any woman he wants. He flirts with all the ladies, and I mean dozens and dozens. But his face lights up from across the room when he sees me, and I've never seen him do that with other women.

I like him, we've been flirting for months. I am not certain that he likes me, I think he might, but don't want that to be just my wishfull thinking.

I am stuttery and fumbling over my words when it comes to this. I can talk to him just fine at any other time, but as soon as I plan on asking him out for coffee, or slipping him my number I choke.

I'm a big chicken, Help!

Answer 1

I would say take the bull by the horns, no pun intended!
You don't have any thing to lose by asking him if he would like to go for coffee, if isn't into you, then you will finally know and be able to get on with you life. Don't wait around and let someone else get there first or never know if he does or doesn't - don't be sorry later, go for it!

Answer 2

Hi! I have had the same problem for SOO long. I was too shy to talk to cute boys. Then there was this boy in my biology class in college. He was so cute, he looked like a model. I thought for sure he had a girlfriend, and even if he didn't, he wouldn't like me anyways. So for about a month i kept my distance, and admired him from a far. Then i decided that even if he doesn't like me, we can maybe just be friends. But i did NOT want to let this chance pass me by, so i sucked it up, i didn't care what he thought of me, and i went over and talked to him. And this is WAY abnormal for me. We talked and got along, so i asked him if he would like to study with me sometime. We set up a day, and the rest is history. We have been together for 2 and 1/2 years, and are now living together, and planning to get married when he graduates from college. I know the situation is a little different, but hopefully this helps with asking him out. If you don't try, you will never know, and you might miss the opportunity of a life time. I know going up and talking to him was the best decision i ever made. Good Luck, i hope it all works out.

Answer 3

Don't be a chicken! that's his job! LEt him ask YOU out. Just be confident and float across the room! Sell it, baby! LOL! you said he lights up when he sees you it sounds like there's some potential. jsut be apporachable. what that means is just smile at the room, and leave your problems ouside. he does NOT want to hear that your cat just died. there's time for that after a LONG time. we are talking a couple months. It's too heavy for a first date. you need to be light and easy. (not to be confused with slutty. You are not meredith grey of grey's anatomy.) you need to just focus on being a nice distraction from his hectic work or school day. you also need to analyze his character during this time. he needs to be thinking, "wow! she's AWESOME!" he needs to realize that being with you is really easy and that it's worth the risk of rejection. men are just as scared as women. they want to know that you are going to be nice to them. (read, treat them nicely bu5t not be trampy. not like meredith grey. are we getting the whole she sleeps with a married man thing here? cause that's kinda where i'm going with this. you don't want to do that. no sex, no taking other girls guys. got it?) as for the stuttering, BREATHE! LOL! take a breath, relax, inhale. exhale. confidence is about the sexiest thing you can have. just listen to what he says and follow his lead. Don't slip him your number unless he actually ASKS for it. don't ask him out for coffee. continue to be just fine with him. Remember one last thing If a man isn't man enough to ASK you out he isnt' man enough to TAKE you out! Good luck and God Bless, sweetie! Remember to VALUE yourself!

Answer 4

Write down on a sheet of paper exactly what you want to say, then get in front of the mirror and rehearse. Get it down to perfection, then while your courage is high, say your lines to him.....or better yet, just talk to him in a normal way, and ask him out.

Answer 5

I used to have that problem. Just be open! Just tell him you think hes cute and would like to know him more and offer him your number. If you have been flirting that long he would undoubtedly take your number, whether he would date you would be another story. Be his friend first I assume.

Answer 6

just get it over with and ask him out. u know if u dont u will hate your self for no doing it. good luck

Answer 7

just ask him he will say yes if he likes you and from the sounds of it he does go get him girl