My ex and I have been together for 1.5 years. We lived together and work together still. We had discussed marriage, but b/c we argued a lot, she broke it off 2 months ago. We didn't speak for a month. Then we started talking again and trying to be friends. It still hurts me because she told me there's no chance at getting back together. So I feel like being friends is giving me false hope. I don't contact her, she contacts me. Our conversations always start off well, friendly, but then she gets upset at me b/c things didn't work out and starts calling me names. Now she calls me these names jokingly as well. Why does she do these things? Is it because she's afraid to admit that she still loves me and wants me back?
2007-01-06 11:27:29 · 10 answers · asked by Don T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah, the motions of human drama.
She is partly fond of you and partly angry at you for not measuring up to her standards of what she is trying to change you into. Women do that. They can't help it.
I suggest getting away from her for a while and meet some new girls. Date them. Have a good time. You lived a life before this current woman came into your life. There is more life out there without her, too. YOU have to go out and get it. If that doesn't work and if you two are drawn back together, then maybe she's the best you can do.
2007-01-06 11:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows what she can get away with---don't let her treat you like that. She is being rude because she apparently thinks you still love her.
What you need to do is change, act like you don't like her and start dating someone nice. Even if she loves you, that's not a very nice girl and just think how she would treat you if you married her. It only gets worse not better.
Personally you sound very nice and I think you should find a girl who appreciates you, right now you're vulnerable and she knows it! Go out and have a good time, you'll see----you will find the right one as there is someone for everyone. Good Luck!
2007-01-06 19:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by lorrina b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that she's playing head games with you. She knows you still love her--she was the one who broke it off. So now, it's time to make a clean break. If she calls you, the moment she starts calling you names or getting difficult, remind her she was the one who broke it off and now you realize what a good idea that was so you're going to help her make a complete break of it and tell her good bye. Why allow someone to walk all over you? You deserve better. She doesn't respect you.
2007-01-06 19:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I know you are hurting, but don't let her have that much power over you. She is playing head games with you...and not the fun kind either. You need to tell her that you are very uncomfortable being around her and need time and space to gain some persepctive about what you want and what you need for your life. She sounds very immature and you are better off without her. Peace and take care, man.
2007-01-06 19:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by M D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sound of things it sounds like she wants to still be with you but maybe not in a relationship. She could be confused right now about what she wants from you so you should just give her time and space. See where it goes from there.
2007-01-06 19:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn808 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her to stop contacting you for a while so you can get over her completely, also her calling you names isnt very nice so i would say that she prob does care but is just bein a ***** cause she can be, you let her do it so tell her shut the f@#k up and leave you alone. I know it hurts but she just wants you to want her so she can feel good about herself.
2007-01-06 19:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, just wants to use u 1 more Time
2007-01-06 19:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't communicate with her move on. She's immature and mean.
2007-01-06 19:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no all it is is shes not sure or she wants you to belive she does.
2007-01-06 19:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lilie. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-01-06 19:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by BILL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋