i am a single mum with three children who i live for 24/7 and people say this isnt healthy! why not? i decided to have children and i am taking this responsibility. if my children are happy and so am i isnt that ok?
2007-01-06 11:16:09 · 21 answers · asked by flubberlubberlubber 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my children have a fun filled life and have their friends round all the time! i dont smother i just live for them and im not interested in going out etc. but honestly they go to kids clubs and have very active lives (not housebound) :-)
2007-01-07 13:39:34 · update #1
YOUR DOING GREAT. DON'T MIND THE OTHERS WHO ARE TRYING TO TELL YOU HOW TO RUN YOUR LIFE. YOUR CHILDREN COME FIRST AND THAT'S THE MOST IMPORTANT PART.
2007-01-06 11:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a single mom, no doubt they take a lot of your time and attention and they deserve that. But you have to remember that raising children involves only a third of your life. What are you going to do when they are all gone? You can devote yourself to your children but also develop other interests and relationships along the way. This will help you to be well rounded and transitioning to the empty nest a little easier.
2007-01-06 11:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do need to put your children first. However you do need some time for yourself as simple as getting your hair done once a month. I think it becomes unhealthy when you are hanging over them all the time and keeping them from being kids. My mother did that, if she had her way, I would never have left home upon reaching adulthood, I would have been at her side 24/7. If she didn't have to send me to school she would have been in heaven. If you see yourself doing such stuff or friends and family tell you are being that way then it is unhealthy.
2007-01-06 11:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its ok. But as your children get a little older its good to go out and let your children know how to deal with being away from you because they will have a harder time being away from you when they start school and other things that come up in life. As long as they know Momma is coming home soon, they'll be more prepared for short separations, like school and other appointments.
2007-01-06 11:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy then it's fine! Your children will grow up and be happy and feel loved. You do need some time for yourself if you ever start to feel resentful towards the kids. Are you supporting all of you too!? Good for you if you are, if not then become an example to your children and work for what you have and for what you give them. Good Luck!=)
2007-01-06 11:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is wonderful that you are such a devoted mother. As your children grow older they will become more independent emotionally, and eventually financially.
Your role will change dramatically and as they become adults they will have their own lives and you will feel left out. If you don't step back a little and give them their space they may resent you for it or become too needy as adults.
Your children can still be significant in your life but you must still balance your life to include focusing on preserving a little something for yourself (hobby, meeting group, etc..) so that as your mother role changes it wont be so hard for you to make a healthy adjustment.
2007-01-06 11:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what people say or think about what you are doing. As long as your kids are happy, healthy, and they show love for you than that is all you need. Most people who say its not healthy usually have no children themselves or grew up pretty much alone even though they had both parents there. Take care of your kids and don't worry about others.
2007-01-06 11:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by sorchia31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with being with your kids 24/7. I also have 3 kids and I'm with them 24/7. I take my kids on any vacation we go on and any hotel we stay at even if it's not more than 20 miles from our house. My mom did the same with me and I love her to death for the love she has given me.
2007-01-06 11:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn808 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your job as a parent is to ensure that your children are able to become independant. Is your 24/7 attention helping that? If not that's why it would be considered unhealthy.
2007-01-07 00:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe that, thats wrong i think that children are a good reason to live and to want to live because of them is the best thing possible as long as you do that then your children will be the best they can be so just keep doing what you are doing there is nothing wrong with that
2007-01-06 11:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by kelsey b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing so long as you and the children are happy.Dont mollycoddle them too much and let them gain their independence.Good on you for taking your responsibility seriously.Parenting is a 24 hour job.So long as you also take some time out for yourself.
2007-01-06 11:54:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋