Boyfriend Trouble?

Question

Never felt this way about a man before, and absolutely cannot live without him. I listen to him, and he can also make me talk about things which no one else can do. He broke up with me because he said that it was not the right time and that's what he was feeling in his heart, but that he still has the same feelings for me and that we should try this again but at a later time. Problem is, I don't think we should be apart. I think we should stay together and work out any problems we have together. I'm really tired of missing him so much and feeling so hurt and crying every single day. Please, tips on how to get him back or what I should do. No stupid or rude comments or answers please.

Answer 1

You don't seem to understand what is going on here. He was upfront and honest with you. You need to respect that. The reason he broke up with you doesn't have anything to do with you. He wants to nail other girls. Most guys would have just cheated on you, but he obviously respects you, so you should return the favor. Your best bet is to move along with your life. Don't wait for him, or remain celibate. Go out and live your life as best you can. You two may or may not get back together. Either way, its over now and you need to accept that. Don't pressure him, don't bring up getting back together. Let the man do what it is he's gotta do.

Answer 2

From experience, if he want's time. Give him time. If you bonbard him with reasons abotu why you should be together and show him you can't live without him, you just might scare him away for good. If you appear to clingy you'll make him run. Give him some space, tlel him you understand and to get back to you when he feels ready. I know its not something you want to do, but if he needs time you have to give it to him. In the mean time try to not think of him to much, and surround yourself with friends and family. Maybe go on some dates and stuff in the mean time. Who knows, maybe while your waiting, someone even better will show up. Someone who will never let you go...

Answer 3

Sounds like your in love, and you cant just make those feelings hault and wait for him to come back to you. I say you call him, and ask him why you think your taking this break. Tell him that if he feels that way about you then why dosent he want to be with you? His anwser will hopefully slove this problem because it will either be you 2 getting back together, or him saying he just wants to wait. if he says he just wants to wait the well he lost you. If you are sad about losing him just think "he dosent want me so it must not be love" Its going to be hard to get over those feelings but there will be another guy. So my over-all advice is TALK TO HIM. dont let him away before you know why he left

Answer 4

oh my gosh, my boyfriend said the same thing this summer when we took a little break, he said it would be better after college because we're a couple of years apart.
i just wasn't going to let that happen. i cried almost everyday. but i surrounded myself with friends and tried to get better.
anyway... we still talked like every three days, and at the end of the summer we started getting close again and now we're back together. that was just in my case, and i hope that can happen for you.
i think you should be surrounding yourself with friends right now and letting yourself grieve and vent and wait, but still try to have fun. if it's meant to be, he'll come back, if not set him free. and from the looks of it, he's gonna come back.

Answer 5

I know just what you are going through. I have been going through the same exact thing. I am letting time work it out. We still talk just stay in contact with him as a friend and remind him that you are friends. Not sure if he will come around but it is worth the try. just be there for him and be his friend. Take your time and try as much as you can to not push it.

Answer 6

look i am telling you dont push him because the more you push him the longer it will take for him to come back just make him realise that he needs you in his life and without you nothing seems right he will come back, in the mean time let him know you are there if he needs you and that you are going no where man are a few years behind girls so while you are ready for a full time commitment he is just figuring out what love is and he probabaly does love you he just hasnt figured out how to show you just take one day at a time and in no time he will be back in your arms

Answer 7

Im sorry but chances are he told you he felt the same way cause he didnt want to hurt u, if he really did feel the same way then he would give it a chance, not call it quits before anythin gets too hard...give yourself time to grieve and move on, hang out with your friends and keep yourself busy.

Answer 8

Just talk to him and see what the problem really is, Seems to me you guys had a good relationship and if thats the case then there is no reason for him to break up with you, unless he is scared... Me are just as fragile and scared as we can be. Ask him if he is afraid and whatever you can do to change if you need to. I hope I helped a little. Take care and good luck.

Answer 9

I think you should give him some time but should also give him some hints that you really miss him. You shouldn't totally obsess about him, because you might of been so busy being sad that you didn't notice your true love waiting for you.

Answer 10

Lady, you need to date. Not me, I think you're an idiot. But go find another idiot to help you get over the idiot who dumped you. And why did he dump you? He either doesn't like you or he likes someone else better and wants to test the new relationship (likely). Don't be silly. Go find another man. They're freakin everywhere.