He has a little brother and a kinda small house, and he said that we would have no privacy. Is it really the case or does he not want to have me over. I have ment his parents and he has been to my house. It has almost been three months
2007-01-06 10:54:40 · 11 answers · asked by Sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a little brother........a little house........parents on the lurk!!!!!
i wont either!
2007-01-06 10:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sam. . .
Likely he has something, real or imagined, that he is ashamed of or hiding from you. Perhaps his family has a messy home and he doesn't want you to see it. Even more possible he might have a very messy room and not want to be in the position of you seeing that or, possibly worse, having to blockade you from seeing it. I don't know your age but it seems that you are somewhat new in dating (if you're not 25 and been able to date 5-10 gentlemen then you are new). Three months is not necessarily a long time. It probably seems long to you but it really isn't. Perhaps the answer might be to simply ask him outright if there is something about being at his house that bothers him. Don't be accusatory, make sure you are communicating you are on his side, and reach out to him. Let him know as you ask him that you accept him openly and whatever the stress is he can tell you. Another approach is to buy him a sweatshirt or t-shirt that has some logo or iron-on that you "randomly found and thought it fit him perfect" so you had to buy it and bring it right by. Only. . . OOPS!! You forgot! He was at work or out (of course you knew he was) but you're just as open to saying howdy to "mom and dad" while you drop off the shirt. While there you would score points by being sociable with them, you can sit down and visit (if they're receptive) and also ask where the little girl's room is, and give the place a looking over. But choosing this tactic comes with red flags that you must be prepared to accept. You might find a messy house, disgusting restroom, or other specific that offends you. Be prepared to not be judgemental and not care for your boyfriend any less or any differently. If you are not able to do this, then don't go and wait. It's not going to kill you. If you are, then go, be offended or not, and then when your boyfriend learns that you were at his house and that you are still just as excited to go to the movies as you were last week when you hadn't seen the house, he'll be relieved and expanded trust will be gained. If you find that you can stand his house, perhaps you and his mother could work out fixing dinner together one night BEFORE you and he go to the movie. Remember, we put on a show for people to one degree or another so they can see the best in us and appreciate us more. The real relationship starts when that mask begins to crack, they see who we really are, and STILL appreciate us more. Can you appreciate him more for what he is without the mask?
2007-01-06 19:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by Michael the Archangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can think of a few reasons why he's not comfortable having you over to his house.
1. No privacy.
2. Little brother
3. Parents
4. Not much room
5. He knows his parents and how they might react to you two together.
6. One of his parents might have a physical problem he is ashamed of, or is very private about.
7. His mom's a lousy housekeeper and the house is a mess.
8. He's not ready to let everyone know where your relationship is right now.
9. He might think having you over = you're engaged, or going steady or something serious.
10. The house itself may have problems he's ashamed of, like a leaky roof, broken windows, or roaches.
Three months isn't a long time, and I wouldn't push visiting his house this soon anyway. Be a lady and go only when you're invited to his house by his parents.
2007-01-06 19:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by Mmerobin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a guy doesn't invite you to their home it usually means because they are hiding something. Obviously you don't know this guy as well as you think you do. Meeting his parents doesn't mean that you KNOW him well. It just means that you met his parents. The only way to know if he is hiding something and why is to ask him point blank. Besides what do you need "privacy" for? You are far too young to get sexual and obviously the relationship is not at a point where it would be advisable to BE sexual.
2007-01-06 18:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MayB he just isnt comfatble yet because u have a much suitable house them him.Mayb he just wants u guys to b closer so he would like to b at ur house where u guys have lots of privacy to spend time together.Im sure its nothing bad.Just trust wat he tells u,and let it hang loose.
-Best Wishes
2007-01-06 18:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be he's self concious about how he wants to behave vs how he should behave, just tell him you want to go over and watch a movie in a totally unintimate way. Or better yet, tell him you don't care what it is or how bad, you just want to know for honesty's sake.
2007-01-06 19:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a lot of more reasons and maybe he is just embarrased. Plus, it is too early to move in together!
Oh, did I say move in? LOL!!! I misread... Nevermind!!!
2007-01-06 18:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like bs to me. he could just invite you over just to chill. and all yall could chill together. sounds like he is hiding something
2007-01-06 18:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be alot of reasons.
2007-01-06 18:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo! Yamster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is not sure about anything. maybe he is just used to being alone
2007-01-06 18:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by ms.tari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋