We want to get married on an Australian Island (live in Victoria), we have told my in laws that we will pay for flights and accomodation for them to take part in our wedding day. They have said they wont come! Why wont they come to our wedding day? Is it me they dont approve of?
2007-01-06 10:42:04 · 15 answers · asked by *happyas* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We live in Victoria, Australia and want to get married on a Queensland Island, Australia,
They are fine health wise, and aged in their late 50s.
2007-01-06 10:51:27 · update #1
Their son needs to ask them. If it's a fear of flying, that might be something you will have to live with, but take a video of the entire wedding so they can at least enjoy it or better yet - try to set up some sort of live feed for them to participate in it.
If it's because they think you are spending too much on them, he will have to explain that it's his pleasure to do so - since he absolutely wants to have them present.
If it's vindictive - you'll find out soon enough, but I hope not for everyone's sake.
don't take it personally dear.
2007-01-06 10:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask them or ask your Fiance' to find out what the problem is, I would not push it as you may push them away from you, just leave it be, you can always have a dinner after the wedding with just the two of them.
Just a thought , but are you expecting other people to come to the wedding and have you made travel arrangements for all of your guests? If not and they are they only ones coming they may feel that you slighted some family and friends by getting married far away and wanted it to be a traditional celebration.
Good luck and Best Wishes to You and Your Fiance'.
2007-01-06 11:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably the best judge of whether they are having any concerns about you or your choices. Do they give you any reason when you question them about why they aren't willing to come? Have you ever asked them "why" ?
Have they voiced any concerns about your fiance?
Do they not want you to spend your money to pay for their arrangements?
Do either of them have problems with the mode of transportation, like they are afraid to fly? I know one person who won't go across bridges over water.
If your date is getting near, I think you and your fiance need to talk to them about it. Face to face would be best, that way they can see how much you want them there, and how hurt you'd be if they didn't come.
Good luck, and have a wonderful, joy filled wedding day. And remember to have fun. Sometimes, it seems, the bride and groom get all bogged down with stuff - the reception line, the toasts, the dances, keeping a smile on your face for hours and hours - they forget to have fun. Having fun will leave you with much nicer memories of the day. Sweating the details will just leave you stressed.
2007-01-06 10:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea how old or if they are in good health. Asking someone to fly half way around the world and spend at least 28 hours on a plane is asking a lot. Maybe you are paying their way there but they might not be able to afford their stay there. They would need to stay for at least a week to justify the long trip. Some people are just not travelers.
2007-01-06 10:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they are afraid of flying after 9-11, try to find a different way to get there...maybe a bus or train and then on a boat? Ask them why maybe it has nothing to do with anything. They don't want to have you spending money on them instead of your wedding.
2007-01-10 09:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 04:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by mosesjr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't read their minds - and certainly we out here can't either :-)
I suggest you talk to them about it again. Express your desire to have them there and why. And then (if they still say no) ask them why they feel they can't accept the tickets.
Being compassionate, thoughtful and honest with them will help build the relationship w/ your future in-laws even if they decide not to attend the wedding.
2007-01-06 11:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you are in the states...and that is a very very long flight to take. I have personally taken that flight before and I hate it! Can you not find another destination other than Australia?
2007-01-06 10:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
They may not want to fly, or be away from home for that long of a time. It is a shame that they won't be able to attend.
2007-01-06 10:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance should be the one finding out what is wrong, as it is his family. There may be a good reason or there may be something you all need to work out.
2007-01-06 10:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by David 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋