Does anyone find it uncalled for and sickening that some parents pull down their children's pants to spank?

Question

Them? It seems like a perverted, sexually abusive, sadistic thing to do. It is horribly humiliating for the child.

My grandfather used to do that to my mother, order her to take her pants down and smack her on her bottom...

guess what? He was also sexually molesting her......

I think it's a really effed up thing to do and completely unnecessary to say the least,

hey, spank your kid wherever you think it will hurt most,

but when you start crossing a perv line, that's when to call it quits.

What do you think?

Thank you very kindly for your answer, Amelia.

Answer 1

Please don't confuse sexual molestation with child punishment. These are two totally different things. I am sorry for the story about your mother, your grandfather is a sicko, perv, what ever you want to call it. There are sick people in this world.

Pulling down pants is a old fashioned way of spanking, it's much more effective way to spank then doing them over layers of clothing. We have 3 daughters, we never do things half a**ed, If a spanking is called for, then pants come down, Period! Guess what, a spanking in our home is a rare event.

There is nothing sexual about it, their your children how could there be? That's not to say there are not wackos out there (your grandfather) who find pleasure in such things (i can't imagine). Then again, like you said he was also molesting your mom, so your taking a example of the minority, not the majority.

All in all, I respect your opinion not to use spanking in this way, or at all, but please don't condemn those good parents who do.

Good Luck

Answer 2

I am going to get blasted for this. But I believe in spanking and I think the best way to do is bare bottom. I was spanked when I was a kid and I know the bare bottom ones made a much greater impression. And as a Mom I came to that conclusion. And because it works so well I do not have to spank often--but when I do it is now always on their bare fanny.

Believe it or not this is the traditional way to spank and was pretty much considered the norm at one time.

The reasons I think it is the best way is it is both safe and effective. The immediate point of a spanking is to give a good sting. It is difficult to do this over layers of clothing. In fact there is a danger of hitting too hard to try to achieve it and actually causing injury. The other thing is it gives a certain seriousness and solemnity to the punishment which helps the message sink in.

One person commented about her father whipping her bare bottom with a belt when she was 13. That was sick. She can not even remember what it was for so it could not have been too serious. But a thirteen year old girl should not be spanked bare bottom by her father. And in my opinion no child should be spanked with a belt at all--but bare bottom is getting into abuse.

You can not draw a logical connection between a parent spanking thier child bare bottom and sexual abuse. Most parents who sexually abuse their children do not spank their children bare bottom. And most who do spank that way do not sexually abuse their children.

Bare bottom spanking is not considered per se abuse in any state and is the way many parents spank--at least at times.

Historically and today it is not a perv thing--it is just a way that many parents (I think rightly) make the spanking most effective.

Answer 3

I don't know if many parents put that into practice anymore (pulling clothes down) but I know that when I was little I had to pull down my underwear and pants for a spanking. The question of it being right or not has to do with if you believe in spanking or not I guess. I do believe in spanking up to a certain age, after about age 6, they are older and its not effective anymore because they realize its a temporary punishment (my opinion). I will not pull down clothes for spanking but I do believe in spanking.

Answer 4

I can't say I agree with pulling down there pants but there's some kids that don't respond to spanking or time out or any other thing some parents feel this is a last resort, yes it is humiliating for a child but if you had a kid that every time you went to town they were throwing a fit what would you do? I don't think no one knows until they've been in that spot.

Answer 5

I agree that after a certain age, it should not be done. When you become a teenager, you're going through certain things (especially if you're a girl) it could be very humiliating to them to have their pants pulled down. However, I don't think young children think anything by it. I would never pull my child's pants down to spank them. Yet, what parents do with their own kids is their business, as long as they aren't leaving bruises or drawing blood.

It's disgusting to compare bare bottom spankings to sexual molesting, though. To actually sexually molest (or rape) a child is much more horrible than a spanking. This is something that shouldn't even be compared to it. If they aren't doing it in public, and doing it in the own privacy of their home, I feel that is their decision.

Answer 6

I agree with you on that if your gonna spank your kid then fine but why pull down his pants that to me is just uncalled for.

Hmm after answering tina w's question im not so sure anymore it sounded like her kid really deserved a bear bottom spank i mean goodness he threw a remote through the tv one at her and cursed at her. I guess it depends on the situation i doubt when most people do it they don't mean it to be anything sexual if someone has had a bad experience with bear bottom spanking im sorry but not everyone is like that.

Answer 7

I personally don't agree with pulling down the child's pants, but that is just simply other people's route of discipline. As long as they are not being crude or disgusting, and just for disciplining, then I feel that is their business. Some feel that if the pants are up, they don't feel the spanking as much. I personally believe that the pants should deff. be up. But other's have differnet opinions.

Answer 8

I don't agree. It does no good to spank a kid with a thick pair of jeans on. They can't even feel it and to make them feel it you would have to hit/swing so hard it would be abusive and dangerous. Younger children ARE NOT completely humiliated by getting spanked bare butt, parents see them all the time like that. Once they are older then I would agree, and it's probably best that the same sex parent do it if necessary.

Answer 9

I don't agree. It is not sexually abusive or sexually anything else. It's embarrassing, which makes it a better deterrent, and it stings more. I was spanked bare-bottom throughout my childhood and I don't suffer any ill effects from it whatsoever.

Answer 10

The humiliation and added pain is the point. it is not sexually molesting to the child it is embarassing and extra painful and that is the rfeason behind it.