ok, i've been dating this guy for about 3 months now and he is currently overseas at present with his family so the only way we can communicate is through the internet. there has been a few occassions where he has brought up his ex's and has gone into detail about their sex life and i'm like "i don't want to know". then when we were talking yesterday his family brought up one of them and they were all talking about her and certain things she had done with an apple (yeah, sick i know), but anyway, then they asked him how was the sex life with her and making jokes about it and he was laughing and answering them while on a conversation with me so i could hear everything that was being said. is it just me being jealous or would anyone else be upset over this? thanks in advance
2007-01-06 10:28:16 · 14 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Damn! An APPLE? Like those giant apples they sell? Anyway . . . yeah, you have every right to be a little bothered about that. But if he's joking about how bad his ex was, I don't think you should be too upset about it. Be thankful he's not talking about the finer points of other women. I think you should let him know that's a little too much information for your taste, and that it hurts you to hear about other women constantly like that. Don't mention it unless he talks about his ex's again. Good night!
2007-01-06 10:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would also be a bit upset. No matter how liberated I may feel in the bedroom, I certainly do not want ex lovers discussing our intimate moments and I certainly do not want to hear my new lover's intimate details. To do that I think violates some trust. To share those details with your family (as your bf has) is frankly quite odd. It is doubly odd when he doesn't listen to your request to forgo the details. Perhaps his family knows the details of your lovemaking likes and dislikes?
2007-01-06 10:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly want sought of family has he got that they talk about each others sex life so openly, and secondly does he know what the word respect means because what goes on in the bedroom is between the people in it and if he respected you or any of his exs he would not be talking about it, think carefully about what you do with this guy cause you could be his ex one day and it will be you they will all be laughing at.
2007-01-06 10:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by mandy b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be grossed out. If he's talking about it with his friends in front of you I would take it as not really respecting that your his girl right now. Thats something for his own personal time. If he wants to talk to you about it in private, say online or something, then I would take it as him wanting to discuss your sex life, probably leading up to being more open about trying things or getting into fantasies that he can't talk to you in person with yet. If you think that could be the case I'd ask him straight out and tell him your fine with improving the sex life between the two of you but you hate it when he gossips about himself and his ex's in front of you. He should be more comfortable with himself. Talk about ego check, he'd basically be saying, yeah, one time I was able to score this cool chic but now i'm stuck with someone else. Its demeaning to you.
2007-01-06 10:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh NASTY!!! Be upfront and honest with him. Tell him that while you acknowledge and accept the fact that he had a funky sex life with his ex...that it makes you extremely uncomfortable to hear him talk about it. IF he has any feelings and respect for you..he will stop. Hugs!!!
2007-01-06 10:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. I'd probably be a tad jealous. So I don't blame you. If I were you, I would try talking to him about it and telling him how it makes you feel jealous and if he could stop talking about his ex's so often. Compromise with him.
Compromise = Key to life.
2007-01-06 10:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Savvy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how long you have been dating this is totally inappropriate and you need to speak to him about it when he gets back. Tell him how it made you feel to hear those things. And remember, if he shared that, he's probably telling his family all about you too.
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2016-12-16 03:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by apollon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if that if he wants a good sexlife with you he should let go of his past, because you dont want to know or hold it against him. Him telling you will only give you nasty images. Tell him to shut it, and respect your feelings about it. Men...BAH!
2007-01-06 10:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by airidonde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps I am old fashioned in my thinking but you deserve more respect than this from your guy and from his family.
2007-01-06 10:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋