I don't know if my boy friend is a christian?

Question

i'm scared to ask my boyfriend if he will come to church with me

Please pray for courage for me

and tell me how i can ask him or where i should ask him

Answer 1

He doesn't have to be christian to be your boyfriend, you know.

Answer 2

Personally I am a witch, but please don't disregard my advice on the matter because i come from a very traditional christian family. I will say that even though i am not Christian i will attend church with my family and friends when they ask me too. However, it is important to ask because you want his company or want him to understand what your beliefs are. Don't ever ask as a way to convert him if he is not Christian because, from personal experience, i can almost guarantee he will not go. I understand that you probably come from a traditional or evangelical church but the best thing to do is leave the evangelizing out of this until he is willing to open up and talk to you about it. And if he is christian ( which i doubt from the fact that you even have to ask this question) then he will gladly go with you. Either way, all you have to do is say, "hey, you wanna come to church with me this weekend?" That's all that is needed.

Answer 3

You can begin by asking him in a respectful way if he would be willing to go to church with you. Ask him in this manner, for example: (your boyfriend's name), would you like to go to church with me? OR ____, would you be willing to come to church with me? If he says 'no thanks' or just refuses, don't force him, beg him or anything of the sort. Just leave it at that and pray for him. You can't force anyone to do something that they don't want to do. Pray to the Lord that He'll change your boyfriend's heart and give him guidance and direction. The Lord works in mysterious ways, so don't give up on him; the Lord can change people, so don't get disheartened if he refuses you at first - doesn't mean he'll never go with you in the future. Pray without ceasing - 1 Thess. 5:17

Answer 4

Years ago I had a girlfriend that asked me if I would go to church with her. I said no. Apparently it wasn't a question to which I had the option of saying no.

Just ask him, but make sure you are asking in the sense that he has a choice. If it would change things between you be sure to make that clear ahead of time. Don't play mind games. If his answering "no" changes your feelings about him make sure he knows you are placing an ultimatum on him. That way he will have the chance to dump you before he answers.

Answer 5

Ask him a series of questions.

Do you ever think about spiritual stuff?

Would you tell me some of the spiritual things that you believe?

Why do you think that is?

Can you show me that in the Bible?

Would you mind if I show you what I believe from the Bible?

Then, if you don't know answers to questions he may have, ask him to come with you to talk to your pastor about his questions. Tell the pastor that your boyfriend has some questions that you don't know the answer to.

Sincerely listen to you boyfriends' ideas; remember that you are trying to learn more about him and his faith.

If he revolts, or is put off by the line of spiritual things, then you will know that he is not a Christian.

2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?

If he is not a Christian, if he is not saved, then break it off; run like crazy.

Answer 6

You should pray and ask the Lord to give you the words to invite Him. When you do ask him, just relax and let the words come out. No need to rehearse, you're not asking him to help you perform a crime.

If he says no, don't push it and you can still date. He may come around on his own time. And if he does come and didn't like it, no biggie - atleast he tried.

Answer 7

Offer it as a suggestion rather than a command. It could make him very uncomfortable if he is not of the Christian persuasion. At least give him time to warm up to the idea. Maybe start with a social event there rather than the business.

Answer 8

Just ask him if he wants to go to church with you. you will be able to tell if he is a christian or not from his reaction. and if he makes fun of you or anything then he isn't worth it. remember, God comes before anything else.

Answer 9

There's a good chance that if y'all are screwing around in the back of his car, and he's liking it...he'll go to church with you. lol

Jeez...if you are a christian, it's simple. You tell him you wanna date a christian man and ask him if he is one. Of course, if you've been fornicating, cussing smoking, drinking, and doing all manner of other worldly type things with and around him, he'd be within his rights to tell you to uh...bugger off.

Answer 10

I will pray for you to have courage to ask him and it does not matter how or even where.

I have yahoo messanger if you would like you may talk to me through there.

God Bless You
Victoria :)

Answer 11

I'm not a Christian, I'm a Witch. My father-in-law is a baptist pastor. My wife, his only child, is devout Baptist.

If she asks me to go to church with her, I go, and it doesn't kill me to do it. I don't have to get "saved" or "accept" anything, they ask me to go just to be near them in a place and time that's special to them. I respect that, and their beliefs, so it doesn't bother me.

By the same token, if I ask her to observe some of my own traditions with me, she doesn't even hesitate.

When you ask him, ask him to go to because you want him to be there with YOU, not as some part of a plan to convert him.