My brother is getting married in the fall of 08 (long engagment I know) My daughter will be the flower girl and she will be almost 3. Is this too young? Im not worried about her "ruining" the wedding my walking the wrong way Im more worried about a complete meltdown during the ceremony. She is my only one so Im not sure how 3 year olds really act. Any help?
2007-01-06 10:24:50 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She is only 1 now so I dont know how she will act at 3. Right now she is a happy and normal kid. She runs around a lot but who knows what the next 2 years will bring
2007-01-06 10:39:59 · update #1
Age three should be just fine. Any younger & I wouldn't suggest it.
Just make sure on that day, she has a nap, has no sugar, goes potty before walking down the aisle & is wearing comfortable clothing.
Then when she gets to the end, have her sit with you so she doesn't have to stand the whole ceremony. Otherwise she'll figdet.
If she balks at the last minute, don't panic. If she doesn't want to do it, don't force her. Your brother can still get married without a flower girl.
One little flower girl was walking the aisle & noticed that everyone was looking at her. She stopped & said, "What? They told me to throw the flowers". She made it the whole way.
2007-01-06 11:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest the following to reduce the chance of what would probably be more of an embarrassment than "ruining" the wedding.
1. Let her practice. Have pretend weddings at home so she has a better idea.
2. Watch some movies with weddings (or at least that part of the movies).
3. Ask permission to sit near the front on an aisle where she can see you. Also ask if it would be okay if she got bored during the ceremony for her to come and sit with you until near the end of the ceremony. Have something quiet for her.
4. No matter what happens, praise her! Even if it how pretty she looks.
Also, hopefully the wedding pictures will be before the ceremony. If not, come prepared to get her ready for pictures after the ceremony.
One last thing: Remember the camera!
2007-01-06 18:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no right age for a flower girl. I think it's up to the child's parents to determine whether the child can handle it. If you think your child behaves well enough in social situations, there shouldn't be a problem. And the walk down the isle will likely only be less than a minute anyway. My flower girls will be 3 and 4 by the time my wedding rolls around. My church doesn't recommend having children in the wedding party under 4, but its ultimately up to the couple getting married and the child's parents.
2007-01-06 22:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by katskradle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have been in a lot of weddings and the flower girls have been between the ages of 3 and 6 and the three old done perfect all except for she was yawning were she had just woke up so a word of advice if she is asleep wake her up about an hour before time for her to walk down the isle and don't give her much candy before she walks down because it will make a kid hyper and she will jump around and etc.
2007-01-06 19:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by dixie r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was about a year and a half when we got married. She walked down the isle with my Maid of Honor.When she started to get restless, my aunt took her outside so she could run around a bit. There was no meltdown!! If you are worried, pack her a bag with snacks(nothing messy) and quiet toys to keep her occupied.
Good luck!
2007-01-06 20:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by momof3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a little young for a flowergirl. If she is a hyper child, I would think twice about having her as a flowergirl. But if she is more self contained, I'd let her. I do not know how your child acts in public so I cannot determine whether or not she should be it for your brother's wedding. If you do decide on her being the flowergirl, you should show her what she needs to do, a small rehearsal to get her ready for the big day so she will not be totally clueless on what to do or where to walk.
2007-01-06 18:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kaitel 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think 3 is okay, all the flower girls in the weddings I've gone to were 5 and under, much older and they're bridesmaid material, everyone thinks a little, waddeling flower girl is precious, just be tuned n to what gets her agitated and plan for it.
2007-01-06 18:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Green 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At three years old your daughter should be quite steady on her feet but she won't understand the significance of what she is doing. To ensure that she is confident on the day, play dress ups with her, give her a small basket with petals or a posy of flowers to hold and tell her that you are going to practise being flower girls together. Make it fun and do this a few times with a reward to follow and she will do you proud on the day.
Best wishes to you and your partner.
2007-01-06 18:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by lizzie 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had a 10 year old be my flower girl and she did a great job!
2007-01-06 18:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
she will be fine. after she walks down th asile, have her sit on the front pew or sit on the platform next to the bridesmaids.
2007-01-06 21:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by petasucks101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋