I'm at the point where this is going to drive me crazy. My mother has a gambling problem. I can't seem to get her to realize it though. She has had her wages garnished twice and soon to be a third time when this one is paid off, because she used money that she didn't have to gamble. Then got a loan to pay off her credit cards and ended up racking them up again. Then never bothered to even start sending payments to pay the loan off. She claims she doesn't have a problem and that going once or twice a month isn't consistant with a gambling problem. She also says she goes to relieve stress from work. How can I show her or get her to admit that she has a gambling problem. She is also about to declare chapter 13 bankruptcy but says its not because of her gambling problems. It is... example on Thursday night she went to the casino with $300 and at the Casino withdrew $200 more. Her paycheck is only $650 after garnishment. Now she has no money to pay my dad for her half of the bills. Help!
2007-01-06 10:24:50 · 7 answers · asked by slytherin_95 4 in Games & Recreation ➔ Gambling
It is SO important to make her go to gamblers anonymous as soon as possible. Tell your father that you need his help in getting her to go. My father had a BAD gambling problem that I didn't know about when I was 14, as a result we lost or giant house, the business we owned, 4 cars, and my parents got divorced. It will only get worse and worse and WORSE. You must take her to seek help NOW!! Have an intervention with some of her friends and your family. She will NEVER admit to having a problem until she gets help. I know it's a terrible emotional burden on you, but you have to act on this or you could be in danger of losing everything. My whole world crumbled around me and my family became divided. I wouldn't wish that on anybody. INTERVENTIOn, use your father your grandmother aunts, uncles, friends of hers, siblings, all gather around and confront her and send her to GA. You do the leg work in finding out about meeting times, fees (I think it's free though) and availability, that way it's all done for her and you have ALL THE INFO (very important to get this) so when she is confronted, there are no excuses for her not to go. She is hurting everyone, especially you her daughter, and enough's enough. Don't let it destroy your family. My heart goes out to you girl, good luck and God Bless!
2007-01-06 10:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ivana Cracker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is an organization called Gamblers Anonymous. It's patterned after Alcoholics Anonymous. It seems to be helpful for those who participate. There is probably a chapter near you. Getting your mother to admit she has a problem and go there might be difficult though. You might give the Gamblers Anonymous in your area a call and tell them about your problem. It's your problem too, you know, not just your mom's. Maybe they might have some suggestions for you for ways to discuss this with your mom and maybe convince her to get some help. Help IS available, if she will only recognize the problem. Good luck to you!
2007-01-06 13:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by tychobrahe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is in denial. This is classic addict behavior. Since she is an adult, and you have tried talking to her, the only thing left to do is get enough support arond you from loving family and friends to do an intervention.
Like all addicts, they have to voluntarily hit their own bottom before they are willing to realize that they cannot go on doing things the way they do. You are not going to talk her into, or make her, go to any meetings. She is going to have to run herself into the ground with the stress of financial ruin, and hit the end of the line on coming up with cash to feed the addiction.
You are the kid here, and it's sad that you are having to worry about a parent's life like this. Like any person connected to an addict, there is a certain amount ot letting go that you must learn to do to save your own sanity. I am not saying you should give up on someone you love. But you have to save yourself before you can help someone else. If your life is terrible affected by this mess, you need to get support.
2007-01-09 09:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends how old you are. My father has been gambling for 40 years and has nothing. they seem to get by but they leave a lot of road kill along the way.
Problem is that they never think of anyone but themselves.
If you are old enough to fend for yourself, then take care of yourself.
If you are too young then tell the cops, they will help you with contacts and legal advice.
And what about your father? what is he doing. My mother could never do anything but she didn't leave my father which she should of done to save us.
2007-01-06 10:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by stan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres what i think i would do
tell her to wait till she gets her paycheck and set all the money aside for bills and some for spending. Have another pile for gambling. ALSO, seek a proffesional.
2007-01-06 10:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call gambler's anonymous. I feel for you, I live with a gambler and I know what it's like. Good luck!
2007-01-08 21:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
show her the twilight zone were franklin gets addicted to gambling then goes crazy later the gambling machine kills him.
2007-01-06 10:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋