question
the man i am with has almost had two babies . .
to make a long story short he was with this girl for 5 years and she cheated on him multi. times
the first baby wasa miss carriage and the second she got an abortion this was about a year ago i dont want to have sex with my boyfriend becuase he has has sex with many women and i want to know if it is a bad thing
most people say you cant have a relationship with having sex but i would like to ask all of you]
i dont want to have sex with him becuase he has had it with mulit. people and i just wouldnt feel that it would be special i love him very much and he is 25
please help!
2007-01-06 10:18:18 · 21 answers · asked by stolen kisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a boyfriend and we have decided not to have premarital sex. You CAN have a relationship without having sex. If it is meant to be, we will get married and then have sex. We both have had sex before with other people, yes. He has been married previously and we have not been with anyone for years. We feel this is the best for us. Don't let him pressure you into something you feel is not right for you at this time.
2007-01-06 10:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I'm sure that you are not the only 20 year old virgin on the planet. Some people value their virginity highly and do not wish to lose it to the first person who comes along. Relationships take time grow and develop, as does trust. It sounds to me like there is nothing wrong with you - you just have not found the right person yet to take that step. And thats okay. Go with what feels right to you. If you're not meeting people, try joining some kind of club and make friends with some of the guys and girls there. You never know, they may be able to introduce you to their single friends.
2016-03-28 23:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, I've dated for a year and 3 months and after the first 6 months we decided to have sex and at first it was scary but after a while I've gotten used to it. Like yesterday, we've done it 3 times. And my boyfriend doesn't use a condum.
2015-04-03 13:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by The A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is both parties need to be comfortable with sex. If it would help, you can both get tested for STD's before having sex. Also you would need to be able to trust him not to have sex with someone else while waiting on the test results. He sounds like a typical guy, just having fun. If I were you I would make him wear a condom anyway, unles you are trying to have a baby. Good luck.
2007-01-06 10:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by Rick R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to have sex to have a relationship. If he loves you he will honor your wish not to have sex. Having sex before marriage is why so many guys do not commit. They have all the benefits of marriage without the commitment. Your boyfriend sounds irresponsible because he has created children he was not ready to father. He has multiple sex partners and this puts you at higher risk to be cheated on and to contract STD's. Stick to your values and you won't regret it.
2007-01-06 10:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want to have sex with him because he has had many parteners then leve him what are you doing here, if you are worried about aids, or an STD then get him tested that would be my biggest concern. He can't take back how many people he has slept with and ther is a difference between sex and making love for both men and women.
2007-01-06 10:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you dont want to have sex with him then don't and if you do use a condom PLZ. Promiscuity is gross even if he is male. Maybe you two should go get a HIV test together, Seriously and dont do anything you dont want too just to stay in a relationship its not worth it.
2007-01-06 10:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him,why are you with him? Those you cheat are doomed to repeat. His past history is all the proof you need to cut him loose and move on. Don't take the chance and stay and find you become an almost baby's mama!!
2007-01-06 10:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by isbros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex in this picture doesn't matter. The real cruix is this guy you want to be b-friend and g-friend with. Sounds to me as though he is a loser all the way around and that he is a user....do you want to be put in that "used" catagory too? Best you find a good man to be friendly with and forget about this guy andfd let him shift for himself.
2007-01-06 10:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are one of few people who would say they wouldn't want to have sex with the boyfriend. I am one of those too. I understand your concerns and I am glad you aren't going to. I don't think you should, it won't be special to him adn if he loves you he will wait. That is how you will know if he really cares too. Dont be pressured into doing anything you don't want to.
2007-01-06 10:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋