my daughter lives with me.her baby girl is 7 weeks.my daughter will stay up all night.and then all day sleep.i really dont mind having the baby durning the day.but i hate days like today when she keeps that poor baby in bed with her all day.the baby is starting to stay up longer now.and when i have her i put on her baby music i get toys out for her to look at. and i rock her and feed her.change her.my daughter will get up to feed her and change her but i cant take her leaving that poor baby in bed all day.what should i do?.
my spelling is not that good sorry.my daughter is living with me because she is 17.she dont go out or nothing just stays up in her room all night.
2007-01-06 10:16:56 · 13 answers · asked by bassetluv 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i had the baby only for a little while today.i just ask my daughter if she wants me to take the baby she says no.i feel bad for the baby.i love her so much.
2007-01-06 10:18:33 · update #1
i mean when shes up she takes good care of the baby .but days like this i hate.
2007-01-06 10:23:24 · update #2
first off, i love basset hounds too... secondly, she needs to wake up... the baby needs playtime and attention during the day... your daughter needs to grow up and learn that there are consequenses to her actions.... she should get a job and thank the heavens that you are helping her
2007-01-06 10:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your daughter is having trouble adjusting to being a Mom. She's so young, and the baby is only 7 weeks old. Maybe she's suffering from postpartum depression, if she's staying in bed all day. You're right that it's not a good thing to let the baby stay in bed all day like that. You know, it sounds like your daughter is lucky to have you and so is your granddaughter. Obviously you care a lot about both of them. Try to talk to your daughter and just be there for her, it's only been a short time since she had the baby. Good luck to all of you.
2007-01-06 18:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should Slap some sense into your daughter! You have to work, and its not healthy for the baby to stay up late! They need their rest. For your daughter having the baby at the young age. Give her some resposibility. You love your daughter and your grandchild. But don't let her get away from being a responsible adult. So far, I am seeing that your daughter is restless at night and stay up late. So get her to help out around the house or something. Your daughter isn't setting a good example for her baby girl.
2007-01-06 18:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by jane c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby who has no interaction/attention is considered neglected. If she is not interacting with the baby and only changes and feeds her, there is a major problem. Thank God YOU are around to at least give the baby something to do.
Your daughter needs to grow up NOW and accept ALL of the responsibility of raising her daughter. She has no right to dump the baby on you.
You need to explain to her that caring for a baby involves everything, not just changing and feeding. A baby needs to be talked to, cuddled, rocked, played with. As the baby gets older (as I'm sure you know), she will command more attention, and your daughter needs to be available and ready to give it to her.
For your grand daughter's sake, talk some sense into your daughter. I know she's young and all, but she's a mommy now...so she needs to act like one.
2007-01-06 18:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of I all I want to commend you for being such an awesome mom with this whole thing.
My advice is to tell your daughter why you don't want the baby laying in bed all day, this is a very crucial time in babys development, they need to up looking around seeing things not laying in bed looking at the ceiling all day. If it were me I would just take the baby out of bed and play with her, I know that you probably want your own life but more than anything you probably want your grandbaby to grow up smart happy and healthy and that is not going to happen if the baby is laying in bed all day.
Just explain to your daughter the importance of the baby being up and about seeing, hearing, and experiencing new things so that the baby learns and grows. The baby is never going to learn to crawl laying in bed all day.
2007-01-06 18:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by sammisue0709 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it sounds like your daughter needs to grow up a little and realize her responsibilities as a mother include not staying up all night. She does need to give the baby some time to interact and play.
2007-01-06 19:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could well be in post-partum depression, especially if this isn't normal behavior for her. She needs to see a doctor.
If this is the way she always is, you know, it's hard, but this is her baby and she needs to take care of her. At this age a baby doesn't do much but lay around any way, and unless you're in the room with them how do you know your daughter isn't intereacting with her?
Unless this could be depression, leave them be.
2007-01-06 18:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear your daughter is causing you so much anger and frustration.you should tell her straight to get up or get out .you got to be cruel to be kind .set her alarm for seven get her up don't help her .as if you keep doing it she's not gonna learn,help her to get into a rout in.check she;s not got depression as well as don;t sound good if she stays in bed all day ,any way if she can get up get baby in a routine say to her your babysit once a week to give her a break but only if she goes by your rules good luck hun not a nan yet but got eight children six of them teenagers
2007-01-06 18:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by diane o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is looking for reassurance that you know she can do it, i know its not right at the baby's stakes but there isnt much you can do unless she isnt taking care of the baby at the point of neglect. unless yuo tell her that hse needs to shape up, but legally thats all you can do unfortunately, that baby does deserve to be played with, but 7 weeks is still young and your young daughter is still recovering, maybe she is still in shock that she actually has a baby, alot of moms go through it
2007-01-06 18:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by cosmogirl352352 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should only offer help with how to take care of the baby, but don't do it for her. She brought that baby into the world and didn't give it up for adoption so she needs to learn how to take care of it herself.
2007-01-06 18:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋