..I recently can't stop thinking about a guy I met about 2 years ago- My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years- we've just bought a house. We are having problems. We are great friends but we're not sure if we can 'convert' to partners. We both wonder if we sould carry on trying to make it work or go out looking for someone who can fulfil what we are looking for. Any ideas???
2007-01-06 09:58:00 · 15 answers · asked by TJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like deep down you know the answer..... you love him but your not "in love" with him ! You dont want 2 lose the bond you have with him or want 2 hurt him either !
U said that theres problems and both of you wonder if its worth carrying on so you have 2 decide between you wot 2 do
have a trial seperation WITHOUT seeing anyone else - maybe you just need a break from each other 2 discover what feelings you both have left for the other
2007-01-06 10:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by delilah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is something the two of you are going to have to work out on your own. No one can tell you what to do. If things arent going well chances are that is bringing the need for others to come in to fulfill whats missing. That will only make matters worse though. I would recommend breaking it off if the two of you are resulting to such thinking. Good Luck
2007-01-06 18:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really hard to be in this situation, but you have to follow your heart. Ask yourself do you love you boyfriend, and do you honestly believe you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Try not to think about the guy you met 2 years ago, as you have to think about you and your boyfriend at the moment exsclusively. Is it the lure of someone else that is dragging you away, or is it that you genuinly think you and your boyfriend would be better off as friends.
Time is an important thing to give, don't rush decisions, don't think you have to make them as time will reveal them all, that's my experience anyway. I hope this helps you.
2007-01-06 18:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by monssterr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when u've been going out w/ someone for a long time it can turn in2 a more like frds stage...it can be more like "companion" than "lovers" coz both of u are used 2 having each other around and stuff. But i believe if u guyz really like each other u can always find something dat u wont be able 2 find in other ppl. i fink u should stay w/ ya BF and try 2 work things out . good luck !!
2007-01-06 18:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by confused* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend & i r in a similar position exept where a step ahead of u,hes moved out & has his own house.Where both starting 2 do our own thing without wanting the other 2 know.Its weird.I cant advise u coz im in a similar situatiom myself but i can tell u that your not the only 1 & im following my gut at the moment & starting 2 enjoy life a bit more than i hav in the past.We became 2 good friends & lost the romance which is 1 of the main reasons i split from him.
2007-01-06 18:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by Poppypunto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have bought a house together so there must have been something there for you to do that,i would try and work it out my hardest but if your still not happy,walk away and have a break from any partner and see how you feel then.
hope this has helped.
2007-01-06 18:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by goodlassie666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
carry on with it girl
im not an old git but if theres one thing out of the many things that Ive heared over my short time in life about love is that
its never dreamy and simple all the time (liek id love lol) but you have to plug away at it all the time and the fact you are bestest buddies gives you a brilliant starting point to work from
good luck
2007-01-06 18:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by Music fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your relationship wont last at the rate it is going. Thought about counselling with something like 'relate'? I suspect you are already realising and giving off signals that it is not going to work as you are already looking around for 'alternatives' and justifying why you shouldn't be partners yet......be honest with yourselves here and break up before you break each others hearts...part as friends.....not enemies!!!
2007-01-06 18:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by Confuzzled 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but i don't understand why you would stay with this guy for so long, buy a house and move in together if you don't love eachother and want to be together!! was it just convenient at the time?? if its that bad then no you shouldn't be together. move on and go to the guy you want to be with!
2007-01-06 18:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it and if things are still troublesome then maybe consider breaking it off but you should have a dynamic similar to being best friends its healthy
2007-01-06 17:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by Brad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋