I am 30, and he is 10 years younger than me. I adore this man. He adores me. We seem perfect for eachother. He does not worry about the age difference, but I do. I wonder if it is acceptable. Is society going to accept my relationship or shun me as a cradle-robber? I have dated other men my age, but they just dont seem to appreciate me as much as he does. My family accepts him with open arms, they think he is wonderful for and to me.
2007-01-06 09:42:12 · 34 answers · asked by MazzyStar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Welcome to Club Cougars! I am 37 and my husband of 2 years is 21. I am happier than I have ever been and we get a long great. Don't worry about society who the hell are they anyways? What society finds acceptable lost its value a long time ago when people lost their own values. There is nothing wrong with loving a younger man. I mean men left their wives for younger girls since the beginning of time. Now it is the time in which older women can look great, feel great about themselves and nothing is wrong with that! These young girls that crush on my husband make me laugh because my husband knows that they could never do the things that I can do for him. If you are happy then GO FOR IT! Stop worrying about what others will think. I think it is Great! You Go Girl!
2007-01-06 09:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
"Age is matter of mind, if you don't mind, it doesn't matter."
It's up to you to decide if it's enough of a problem for YOU to accept the age difference and if it's going to impede your relationship from progressing.
Ask yourself...what does the word "society" mean to you in the context in which you're using it? Does it mean your family? Your friends? Your co-workers?
Are you a public figure who's reputation is going to suffer and and be made as a public example of wrong behavior?
How serious do you think it's going to be, and is it even plausible?
If it's only you in the way of accepting what good you have, which you can obviously see...I suggest trying to make a list of your pros and cons and really define what you mean when you use words that are very generic like "family" and "society". Who in particular in these groups are you afraid of ridiculing you or judging you? Who are you trying to impress? Is there anyone you ARE trying to impress?
Just some things to think about. Because if you can't get past the age difference, your relationship is going to go nowhere and it'll most likely end.
2007-01-06 09:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to have doubts and questions - every relationship does. You just have one specific to age, rather than race, gender, location, social position, nationality and all of the other issues that bounce back at us from society.
You should be aware that the age difference poses some challenges that another relationship would not have to deal with. That's a mature view. You should also not give those challenges any more importance just because you are unsure what might come back from society; the important stuff should get most of your attention - your feelings, what you share, how you think, does it rock!
Those moments, like now, when you are concerned about what the random others may say, think or feel - just imagine if he was a she, perhaps with one red eye, from a different race, with opposing views on politics and personal hygiene. Then you'd really have something to deal with.
Besides, you are only doing a Cameron Diaz (et al), right?
Matto
2007-01-06 09:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well in my opinion to eavh their own. But you have to stop and think...Where were you at 20? When you were in a relationship and what your mentality of a relationship was. Men tend to mature differently than women and although every thing is going well now, the age gap between 20 and 30 is relatively different. Just think...he isn't even legal age for the bar yet. If he makes you happy go with it and forget abot what society thinks, your the one that is in the relationship ...not them
2007-01-06 09:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl! Don't even worry about it. Just remember, he might feel that he's been missing out and want to "experiment" with other things and other girls in a couple of years, and your biological clock is already a-tickin. Who cares about what society thinks as long as you are both of legal consent. You should only worry about you guys and the future of your relationship. That's what would be on my mind. If you're happy right now, then that's all that matters.
2007-01-06 09:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ivana Cracker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well love is love, if you are really in love with eachother, go for it!!! Just keep in mind that in 10, 20 years down the road, you will be able to notice the age difference, but when there is love nothing else matters, live your life day by day, and be happy with your man!!!
2007-01-06 09:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by Stella d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 22 I dated someone 42 and it was one of the best relationships ever. Your question to yourseld should be, Do you care what people think? If he makes you happy and vice versa than you truly have something that millions of people search for. Are you willing to give it up for what some close minded people think? I really hope not. Congrats on finding a great guy.
2007-01-06 09:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by ladyfatale01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think its ok to have a boyfriend thats 10 years younger than u. but i say follow ur heart. it doesnt matter if u know what ur doing is right then nothin else matters. if u think that u guys were made for each other or u know that u guys were then age doesnt matter. if u want to be with him then go ahead. good luck! and im happy that u found someone who will be ther for u and take care of u. be happy
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2016-05-17 03:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definitely shouldnt worry about what society think, your family's opinion is far more important
however I would say that he probably still has alot of growing up to do, and while he may be enthusiastic about the relationship now, the novelty of being with an older woman will wear off. 20 year old men arent known for their maturity and he is likely to change his mind in the months to come
2007-01-06 09:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋