I have a 16 year old son who has been getting into some trouble,?

Question

so we got in a huge argument and he threatened to kick my
a **(because he is 16 and knows everything). So I called him on it, and needless to say it ended quickly. I broke his nose and knocked out two of his teeth.

I took him to the hospital to get his nose fixed and he has an appointment for his teeth. He didn't say anything to the doctor because I told him he would be in worse shape if he did, so I am good now.

Can I get in trouble for this with the law? My wife saw the whole thing. It wasn't self defense, but I didn't attack him either. It was just a fight where he lost."

Answer 1

ugh!

Where is the parent here?

Answer 2

Way to set the example and be the mature parent. Aren't parent suppose to be nurturing, protective and loving of their children? Now ask yourself if it was handled properly and where your son gets his hostility from. Telling your son it would be worse for him is false and more likely to be worse for you. Yes, child abuse is a crime, you can be prosecuted and imprisoned for this. So do you believe he learned a lesson? If so which lesson violence is the answer, parenting skills, or that dads a bad a**. Either way if this is a legitimate question, your the real loser. You all could use some counseling and/or anger management. Kids usually rebel when parents are not involved in their lives. Their are no real reasons a parent cannot be involved in their childs life, there are only excuses.

Answer 3

Nothing like a little tough Love.

My father use to beat me and it just made me tougher. Then one day I did something real bad and I was ready for him.

He took me out to the shed and got the belt out. I was ready for what ever he wanted to dish out.

He then handed me the belt and told me to beat him with it. I just stood there confused. He looked at me with tears in his eyes and this is what he said. "Son I Love You and no matter how hard I have tried to stop you from making the mistakes I knew you were making, nothing has worked. I have failed you as a father, and it is not your fault that you are the way you are. I am the one that needs to be punished." I at that moment realized how much my father loved me and I dropped the belt and flew into his arms.

We have and always will be best friends.

And yes I changed a lot that day, for the better.

Answer 4

It sounds like a drastic way to discipline a 16 year old. You most certainly can get in trouble with the law. It is called child abuse.

Answer 5

You are such a bad example for your 16 yr old. You are the adult here and expected to act as one. Stop being immature. You can be in trouble with the law because you committed and act of battery on a minor. You should go to jail for your ignorance.
I hope your son grows up and is wise to your shinanningans and leaves home and never comes back. Your expecting him to lie to cover your own a.ss

Answer 6

You're a pretty weak father to have a son who wasn't taught any fighting skills. Did he at least get a couple shots in on you or did you raise a complete pansy?

Answer 7

WELL HE GOT WHAT HE DESERVED. HE THOUGHT YOU
WOULDN'T DEFEND YOURSELF AND HE GOT HIS A** KICKED. SO WHEN CHRISTMAS COMES AROUND HE CAN
ASK SANTA CLAUS FOR HIS TWO FRONT TEETH, LOL. HE
HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOU OR HIS MOM, IF HE THINKS HE
KNOWS IT ALL THEN TELL HIM TO GET HIS A** A REAL JOB
AND GET HIS OWN PLACE OR HE NEEDS TO GO BY YOUR
RULE'S UNTIL HE GETS HIS OWN PLACE, NO BUTS. YOU
CONTINUE TO PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN. AND TELL HIM HOW
MUCH YOU LOVE HIM AND THAT EVERYTHING WILL BE COOL BETWEEN YOU AND HIM, IF HE JUST GAVE YOU AND
HIS MOM THE RESPECT THAT YOU BOTH DESERVE. THEN
THAT'S WHEN YOU GIVE HIM A HUG AND SHOW YOUR SON
THAT YOU LOVE HIM AND REALLY DO CARE. BOTH OF
YOU NEED TO HAVE QUALITY TIME TOGETHER, YOU KNOW
FATHER AND SON OUTING. GET TO KNOW ONE ANOTHER
ALL OVER AGAIN, YOU KNEW HIM WHEN HE WAS YOUNGER
NOW GET TO KN0W HIM NOW THAT HE IS OLDER, AND
HAVE A GOOD TIME. THEN AFTER THAT HAVE A FAMILY
GET TOGETHER. DON'T WORRY ALL OF YOU ARE MISSING
THE LOVE.

Answer 8

What you did was child abuse, legally and morally. You need to grow up in your skills as a parent. You only protect yourself if a child strikes you, you don't strike first to show dominance, all that creates is an environment where change won't happen and where your family will end up in worse and worse situations.

You all need to be honest about what happened. You need and so does your wife if you didn't seek help, to ask for help to learn positive parenting skills. If he's acting out all the time, I'll tell you waht I've seen over my life time. Parents whose kids curse at them etc., didn't have that situation happen over night. The families skills were poor to begin with, things were allowed when the child were young, so the child didn't learn respect in a positive environment.

ASK FOR HELP, there is no shame in seeking quality help for you, your wife and your son. There is shame and altimately the destruction of your family in abuse, in threatening him not to tell what you did.

Think of it from this self centered point of view. If you all don't get the quality help to change, to learn to function more effectively as a family, you may be more physically powerful now. But what can happen when he is more so? Will one day you and he get into it again and he kills you? Will he learn from your violence to act out on others? Will he one day be in the news for committing some horrible crime? Then what, will you be one of these stupid self centered parents who says, "I just don't know how my kid ended up this way, I did everything for him." "Some kids are just bad."

You can call community centers and ask if they know of free parenting classes. You need to allow your child to talk about your family probelms, or he will one day explode and hopefully it's only on your and your wife, not on others in the world.

Live this lie and you all will pay. Seek help and keep trying until you find a positive resource for yourself, wife and son.

There are better ways to live and teach your children; how you are doing it will always end negatively.

If nothing else you can call your local department of child protection and ask them where you can get parenting help and help for a child who is out of control. Ask about classes they offer, as most are free. When you go to classes, try not just blaming your child, be honest about your behaivors or you won't gain a thing from any help you seek or any class you take.

NO MORE HITTING!

P.S. I came from a home where abuse was hidden, told not to talk. Guess what, now I have no contact with them and haven't in over 11 years. They still can't see that they did anything wrong and they sit around feeling sorry for themselves. That is my adopted dad does, the mother died alone and wondering why I didn't come to see her. I'd done all I could to give them a chance to change, even taking it out on myself. I finally at age 30 said no more, no more family lies or games and walked away. I'd done all I could to get them to work on things and they won't; in the end they lost big time.

Answer 9

That is considerbly child abuse you can go to jail but you could tell the court what happened and they might understand with your son being sixteen and all!!!

Answer 10

I'm not going to preach you on what the word parenting means, but yes that's illegal.

A fight where he lost? Try telling that to the police. That's considered abuse, so your kid can't say anything.

Answer 11

He probably deserved that. You could get in trouble, but any normal person would understand. If he has any honor then he won't say anything.