hey im in love with this woman whose married she feels the same.,we had an affair which i lost my girlfriend over,its her husband thats stopping her he threatens to take the kids what do i do ?
2007-01-06 09:35:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in a similar relationship, you need to forget about her. I lost everything I had he lost nothing. They always use the kids as an excuse. Just remember it is just that an excuse. If they really wanted out they would just leave. Don't waste anymore of your time move on.
2007-01-06 09:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by Redhead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me, this is not a good situation for you. She may be 'in love' with you, or with the idea of being in love. Sometimes after being married for awhile, especially when there are kids involved, life seems mundane and trying. It's exciting to find a new lover to change the monotony of everyday family life.
However, when it comes right down to it, she may not be willing to give up the security she and her children have with her husband. You can't know for sure that her husband's "threats" aren't just an excuse she's using for not cutting ties with him and becoming fully involved with you. This is something she needs to work out, and from experience I can tell you that you will most likely be the loser in this situation.
You can bide your time and have hope, if you're truly willing to take on a divorced woman and her children. Be sure you are confident enough in her feelings to change your life for her, sure that she won't get tired of you too at some point. Think about what is best for you in the long run; don't sit around thinking only about her. Get out and live your life, mature and grow, and see what she does to make things work. The ball is in her court.
2007-01-06 17:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi marcus b !!!
Please, do yourself a favor, and stop this NOW!!!
It will get real ugly, for everybody, especially for the children!!!
My very serious advise is to just let go!!! Let her do what she needs to do, take care of the kids. probably she is neglecting them at this very moment just because she has you and this ugly situation in mind!!!
Look, this is serious business, and neither you or her are thinking about the children. Stop this nonesense, and look for someone available.
You both already hurt, to many people, and those were ADULTS!!! Imagine how the children are feeling. The situation where they are living at this time should be very sad and difficult and laso very dangerous!!
Marcus, is NOT worth it!!! Just to have a woman next to you, that if she was unfaithful to HER HUSBAND, she could be unfaithful to you, and you could do it to her too!!! Because you were also unfaithful to your girlfriend !!!
Are you willing to inflict so much pain to so many for so long, JUST TO HAVE SEX, with her????
Have you sit down and think about what would be the life in a situation like that???? NOT GOOD FOR ANYONE!!! Not even mentioning dangerous!!! Are you going to enjoy her with all this problems around you??? NO,NO,NO!!! You are goin to feel miserable and confused.
Please, respect yourself at least ones, GET OUT OF THIS REALATIONSHIP!!! And let the time deside what she should do. If she desides to leave him anyway, don't you be the reason for it!
Stay away, don't look for her, call her or anything. Don't give her any reasons for her to loose her children OVER YOU !!!!
NO,NO,NO,!!!! IT is NOT worth it or fair to them!!! You will need to live with this desicion for many years to come. Do you have that strong stomack??? I hope NOT!!! Think about the children!!!
And if she is living in an abusive relationship, direct her to the proper authorities, and professional help. Let her resolve her problems, but away from you. You will not be getting only into an already damage relationship, but you also will be getting into a lot of trouble!!!
GOOD LUCK, THINK ABOUT MY ADVICE it will do a lot of people good, including you!!!
GOD BLESS YOU
ALLIV Z
2007-01-06 18:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My marriage broke up cuz hubby found another woman who knew he was married but didn't care. Forget about her. She has kids dude!!! I have 4 who even now 8 months later are still hurting over the fact their dad has moved out and moved in with her and her kids. Divorce is MESSY and painful. You do NOT want to be in the middle of it. My best advice is to tell her that if she really wants to leave the marriage then she needs to file for divorce..when the divorce is final then to call you. You really need to keep your distance, protect yourself and think about the kids! Good Luck!
2007-01-06 17:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if u love her kids.. U have got to help her out... although Her husband can take the kids away from her due to she cheated on him.. but if he dosent have a job or a roof for those kids... then dont worry... the divorce will cost her a lot of $$ which u have to prepare for her too.. try to be supportive..hope to hear from u and let me know how it went... and by the way is her husband a beater????????
2007-01-06 17:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by peepsqueak 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should shoot yourself in the foot for having the affair in the first place just think of how many lives you a messing up just think of how you would feel if you had been married to this woman and they were your kids and another man messed that up your marriage put stress on your kids its just wrong find a single woman scum bag
2007-01-06 17:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by charles b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay away from her, she is not for you. she has a husband and children you are doing more damage than you know. find a girl whose not married, it is wrong for you to try and steal a family's mother and wife. you should be ashamed for even thinking about taking her!
2007-01-06 17:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by blue eyed blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
falling in love with a married woman is a bad thing. It could be injurious to your health but in this case you have probably ruined the woman's married like. Shame on you you ********.
2007-01-06 17:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a douche bag and separating families!!!! Think of those crying children wondering where mommy went, and why she's not around. Keep it in your pants and go visit your mom so she can slap the hell out of you, you heathen. Imagine it was your mom and you were left wondering!!!!
2007-01-06 17:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
where's ur conscience man? what if it is the other way around?what if u r married and your wife cheats on you...what would you feel ? now the best thing for you to do is to cut that affair short and be quick about it.and save yourself from guilt..
moral values still counts..
2007-01-06 17:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by serendipity 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋