We have been on and off again for 2 years. We have been doing very well for a few months and have lived together for 11 months. Now all of a sudden he ran into finance problems he wents to leave, move in with a friend becuase he feels that this is his problem and not mine. I love him dearly and feel that this is "our" problem. We have some bills seperate and some bills together. Just a few weeks ago we were planing our wedding and now he feels like he shouldn't be with me (just because of finances). What I really want to say is - MARRY ME or just forget us forever! I say this because he wants to leave but still see each other, but I feel by him leaving that he is just thinking about himself and not "US". ARG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What do I do?????? HELP???!
PS I have a 17 year old that lives with us
2007-01-06 09:25:26 · 7 answers · asked by Rosie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him space and be there for him. Explain that if you guys are going to be together and if you were planning on being married, for better or for worse means for better or for WORSE. Period. No exceptions. If he doesn't reconsider and just wants to bail maybe you should reconsider your desire to marry him. On again off again sounds kinda flakey to begin with. He can't just leave you and move out because he's having money problems. One problem with money and he bails on you, your living together, and the wedding? Doesn't sound like a stable relationship to be considering marraige. Don't be so obsessed with marraige, just be together until you're both 100% sure. If you actually really want to say he has to marry you or leave forever, then that is downright terrible on your part. You're giving him a marraige ULTIMATUM? Forcing him to marry you!! That's terrible. And incredibly selfish and not very well thought out. You need to read about the sanctity of marraige and everlasting love between 2 people. It's not your way or the highway. It sounds like he's not the only one just thinking of himself and not an "US." i don't mean to be a rude harpie, but think about it. Do you really want to force someone into marrying you by using an ultimatum, when he's obviously not ready too? That's not the way you want to kick off your marraige together, trust me. You know that in your heart.
Hell, maybe he's using this money issue as an excuse to not get married becasue he's not ready too. That's sound highly likely, especially if you already have joint bills together.
2007-01-06 09:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ivana Cracker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if the both of you have gone through a lot for the past 2 years. Once you "live" with a person, you find out a lot you never knew before. But... it seems like your pressuring the guy into marriage. Its quite clear that hes NOT ready to marry yet. I assume you two talked about it before... and if he hasn't popped the question... don't count on it! Let him leave if he doesn't wanna live with you. Don't waste your time. Focus on that 17 year old!!!
2007-01-06 17:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are wrong..... to give him the ultimatum. He should be able to internalize the problem and fix it. There could also be other reasons why he wants to move out...maybe he's done with you too. Give him the space and see what he does. If you just make him choose..... you may never know his motivation for moving and whether it really is money.
2007-01-06 17:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him..it seem's like deep down he's not ready to commit to anything serious. And if he was he wouldn't call off your wedding like that. Are you engaged already?? If not get engaged first ha. Hope that helped....
2007-01-06 17:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by Mike T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to make the best decision for you. maybe he has other reasons. i wouldn't marry someone who was financially unstable. that usually causes problems. and he shouldn't be living with you and your daughter. not a good example. at all.
2007-01-06 17:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by black mamba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Ur a sl*t. Sl*ts don't marry. They open their p*ssy to all the men around.
2007-01-06 17:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
yes if u want 2 married him that's wat u do!!! but wat of he says no. i think maybe give him wee bit time to think it over.
2007-01-06 17:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by I ♥ Cena!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋