Problems with my mom....?

Question

My mom and I have never really gotten along. We have our days, but they're few. I'm just trying to figure out what I can do to make her accept me more. No matter what I do, its wrong. I've never tried to drink or smoke. I've never done drugs. I'm still a virgin, but she thinks I'm a whore. Today she got mad at me because I handed her a clothes hanger with dust on it... I dont look at it and inspect its quality... but she yelled at me because the dust got on my NJROTC uniform and she had just washed it for me. I told her it would be fine because the dust would come off... and she threw it at me.
Honestly, I dont realy know if I care anymore... to her I'm lazy (but I clean the house without her asking), I'm a whore (when I'm a virgin), I'm a toublemaker when I've never even had a teacher yell at me more or less been to the office or in detention.
my question is... what can I do to make her see who I am and not who she thinks I am?

Going to a shrik really isnt going to help. I dont even realy talk to my friends about all my problems why should I pay hundreds of dollars to allow someone else to say "Yeah, shes a teen, she'll get over it".
my school people are just as bad. I'm a teen, whos going to believe me? why do people think child abuse is such a problem, until you're 18 nothing you say means a thing.

Answer 1

Well for one your MOM needs to go see a shrink because if your in the ROTC they have strong rules and regulations to go by. So don't know what wrong with your Mom but she should be proud of you for staying in school, not out getting pregnant like most girls and not getting into trouble. SOrry to say this but what she's doing is abusing you, mental abuse. You need to talk with her and get her to see a shrink beofre her abuse makes you not want to be around and when you graduate, YOu might not want to be around your MOM anymore. Because if she doesn't get help now you will never satisfy her and she will be abusive to you always. So you have a DAD? If so go to him and explain what's going on. But she really needs help. SO want to chat more just IM me anytime.

Answer 2

Sounds like you and your Mom really need some family counseling, if all you say about her is true. Talk to a counselor at school and see if they can recommend a family therapist. Really, I think this may be the only way. You don't mention your father. Is he out of the picture? And remember, there are ALWAYS two sides to EVERY story, so I am sure your Mom has some issues with YOU, as YOU do with HER!

Answer 3

It appears there are other problems with your mom, probably her actions have nothing to do with you but rather with something within her. You're the closest thing to her so you get her anger. You may want to speak to a counselor and eventually ask your mom to attend with you. Perhaps thru counseling you can get to the root of the problem and reunite with your mother. Good luck.

Answer 4

Have you tried to sit down and talk to her , and tell her all this ? Without arguments and shouting ?Just you and her , no interrruptions, calm ? Its hard to advice but anything in this situation is worth trying .

Answer 5

propably your mother is nervous abut other stuff and takes it out on you
but you say that you have a few good days
on a day like that talk to her straght forward and let her know who you really are
talk to your dad too

Answer 6

maybe you and you mom can get family counseling
you sound like a very nice,good,caring,daughter to me.
does your mom have underlying issues as well?

Answer 7

Have you tried sitting down with her for a heart-to-heart talk? Tell her how you feel and how you would like your relationship to be.

Answer 8

try to do what she wants you to do for just a week and if no change then ask for help on here.