it's not a first for either of us. We want no one but one witness each. We aren't telling anyone WHERE we are getting married and now some of his family members are complaining because they want to be there.
We're both in our late 30's and feel this is getting ridiculous! How should we approach this?
2007-01-06 09:11:49 · 10 answers · asked by moniquebell 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My first wedding was one such as this. The bride & groom were locating to this area & wanted to be married.
They contacted me through my website & I went to their hotel suite & married them. It was their first & I'd bet, their only.
My fiance walked the bride 'down the aisle' which was just a walk from the door to where we were standing for the ceremony. The groom shook, the bride cried. It was absolutely WONDERFUL!
Decide where you want this weddng to take place.
Type into your search engine your city, state & wedding officiant (no 's'). You will have a few to choose from. One will fit your needs.
You can also go to some of the wedding sites but they charge vendors & ministers to get your info. So if you see someone you like, visit their site.
You could also have a wedding at someone's home. The officiant you hire should be able to come to wherever you are & perform the ceremony. Without alot of hoop-la you could have a small, intimate wedding with your families.
2007-01-06 09:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am in my mid 30s and about getting arried for the second time.
For years, i swore that if i got married again I would not do a big wedding things,spending lots of money, feeding thousands of people, who later on when i need support because my marriage is going pear shape will not be there or care less.
I thought that i would just elope with my fiance as at the end of the day, all that matters on the wedding day is my husband and me...
I still feel strongly abouth this, however, i also know that my mum and dad and my future parents in law would love to be there to share my happiness and therefore will be the only people I will invite, along with our grand parents and brothers.
If you think that is still too much, then stick to your guns. This is your life!
The way we are dealing with the rest of the family and friends is by having a party in a bar, the week after the wedding with every Tom Dick and Harry that wants to come. If they want to celebrate with us then cool, they can come and pay for their bloody drink... and mine!!!
2007-01-06 17:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by luciloobomber2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel - I felt that way too! But then I realized some family members especially parents will love to participate in the moment too. Plus, you don't want to start the relationship with his family on the wrong foot, do you? But anyway, maybe you can have a small and private ceremony with ONLY immediate family, like parents and/or siblings as witnesses. Then throw a small dinner party/bbq to please the other family members who are fussing to be there. Hope this solution helps, coz that's what we did!
2007-01-06 17:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by alex405hi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that this is YOUR wedding. How does your fiance feel about this? If he feels as you do, then quit talking about the wedding with family and friends so they will quit hounding you. The more you talk about it, the more likely there will be people who show up whether you want them or not. If you want to have an openhouse for family, a week or two later, that's fine, but you're under no obligation to do something just because someone else wants you to or thinks you should.
2007-01-06 17:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why people feel the need to make such a huge display of a themselves when exchanging vows, I think it's a personal moment that two people share together and if it works for them to be alone, others should respect that.
Get married the way you want to. In order to pacify/include your family I suggest you have a little get together and formal announcement afterward.
Who's day is it anyway?
2007-01-06 17:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They call it eloping if you want to do it. Have a house warming for close family and friends after wards.If you get a video made show it then.
2007-01-06 18:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the wedding way you want it and about a week or two later throw a party and invite family and friends!
2007-01-06 18:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by Classique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in your late thirties and you can't figure this one out and have no more backbone than this, I predict a short marriage for you! Come on already, YOU ARE AN ADULT!
2007-01-06 17:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just elope. Family can be such a hassle sometimes. I love my family, but there were reasons why my husband and I eloped. Can't please anybody but yourselves.
2007-01-06 18:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E-L-O-P-E!!
2007-01-06 19:51:44 · answer #10 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋