ok well. . .my ex-girlfriend broke up with me 3 months back, and the last few months have been difficult because we've been arguing and things being awkward between us. She now has a boyfriend, who she "loves" apparently. Ok this part is going to sound really really bad, but the reason i say she apparently loves her boyfriend is because today we met up for the first time in a long while, and we were having a really good time together, and. . .we made out, for ages and ages. I know that sounds bad, because she has a boyfriend, but the thing is. . .she said that it was just a random thing, but she started it, she initiated it, and she says that she is " in love" with her boyfriend. But if she was, why would she make out with me? i love her so much, and i know she sounds like a bad person for cheating on her boyfriend but honest to god she isn't. I'm so confused by all of this, but i want her back so much, and if theres any chance of that happening, i want to take it. Please help.
2007-01-06 08:55:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i so know where your coming from cause. ok i would be the girl in that relationship lol but i went out with my ex off and on for 3 years there will always be something there. maybe she's not as "in love" with him as she thought. give her time she may realize that your the guy she wants after all or it could be she's using you as a on the side thing. i wish you good luck with this and hope everything works out.
2007-01-06 09:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's using you. if you really can't live without her, do tell her how you feel about her, but be prepared to move on. chances are you'll never be able to or should trust her completely, even if she does say she's in love with you, since her definition of 'love' is more like a grade four crush (that's a bit harsh, yeah, but if she can cheat just like that, there is some serious confusion and misunderstanding in her perceptions).. don't beg her to come back, as that relationship just can't work if she thinks or knows that you won't leave them no matter what. that gives her too much control and make her feel like it's okay to cheat or lie or whatever. so yeah, be honest, brace for impact (chances are she'll still claim love for her boyfriend) and move on.
good luck!
2007-01-06 17:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by madelaine arnaud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that she broke up with you because you don't understand her or perhaps messed up on something she really cares abouts. If she kissed you for a long time, I think she might still be inlove with you and is just using the other boy to make you react. Have you tried talking to her? as to why she broke up with you and telling her how inlove you are with her?
2007-01-07 22:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lilu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been with someone for a while you'll harbor feelings for them for a long time after, regardless of the break-up. I wouldn't read anything into to the kiss or think you'll get back together. She's moved on, you should too.
2007-01-06 16:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I know where you are coming from. Heres the truth though. From what you have said, she is playing with your heart. The way that I deal with women is that once she has had a chance and blows it, she doesnt get another one.
2007-01-06 16:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by geohauss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing pretty much happened to me. Only my ex is now dating my best friend. I just keep telling myself that theyre other guys/girls (in your case) out there. And she will come to you.
2007-01-06 17:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by toriii<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her, move on. I've been in the same position. She's just playing with you.
2007-01-06 17:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how much you love he be so true you will tell her that when you had sex that you where still in love with her don't lie tell the truth
2007-01-06 17:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋