My bf died Nov. 29 2005 in a car crash and I haven't even left my house besides to go to work. I did met this guy last week and I really like him. He knows about my boyfriend and is very understand to why I worry. I'm very close to my bf's famliy and friends but I just don't know how to tell them and I met someone. I don't want people to think that I have moved on to fast. I love my bf so much but I'm 24 and I just don't want to sit around and feel sorry for myself anymore. I just don't know what to do or how I should handle any of this. Please someone help.
2007-01-06 08:54:13 · 15 answers · asked by lex83201 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I totally went through this situation. I lost my boyfriend in a car accident about two years ago, in October. I was also very close to his friends, and worried about what they would think if I ever dated someone else. Like I said, it's been about two years now and I've been ready to "move on." It's just something that you have to do. Nobody really expects you to just sit around for the rest of your life. Talking to my friends and those who were close to them really helped me the most though. It's really great to hear from them that they want only the best for me, however painful or akward it may be at first. It definatly took some searching to find someone that I liked enough to get ready to move on, but I'm glad that I could finally let myself go. Not that I'll ever forget my boyfriend, but liking someone and getting returned affection definately feels good again. Remember that there will always be a special place for your deceased boyfriend, and that whoever you end up being with in the future will most likely understand this. If they don't, they're probably not worth being with anyway. Best of luck.
2007-01-06 09:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by ski bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your first answer. You've given yourself enough time for mourning. If his family gets upset that you're moving on, then they're the ones not being fair. I would have a heart to heart talk with them, especially the parents, or the ones that you are the more closer to. Start off there. If it goes good, then fine. If things go sour, then leave. They can't expect you to be single for the rest of your life. I don't believe you're taking this too fast. It's been way over a year now. Be prepared for them to not accept this. I say go for your new boyfriend, and I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-06 09:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you miss your bf and it can be hard but you have to live life to the fullest anyway!! thats what your bf would want you to be doing right? not just sitting around on your butt all day!!! get up and go somewhere! live your life the way you should and always be having fun!! its okay to sulk about it for a little while but dont let that get in the way of you!! he would want you to be living your life to the fullest i am pretty sure he would anyway i mean why would he want you to be sitting around like that?? i dont think he would and if i were you i would give this guy a chance maybe something will happen!! and you have to remember tht he will be happy for you if you find another man and it will make him happy knowing that you are happy!! so now is the time to live your dreams and just plain have fun no matter how sad you get!!! rememer he would want you to be happy!!!
2007-01-06 09:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry for your loss. But things will get better. What do you love to do? Maybe its writing for me its acting. Live your dream you say u have none but you obviously did at one point you need to get your mind off your boyfriend. Who knows when you least expect it you could meet someone. Try college out live your dream. You will be happy again i no how it feels when someone you love dies but you move on and life gets better. I wish you the best of luck <3.
2016-05-22 23:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss, but you are too young to sit in your house and quit living your life. I know that it is hard and you have mourned and it is time to pick yourself up and start living again. I am sure that your boyfriend's family would completely understand that and that they want to see you happy. You deserve a chance at happiness. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-06 09:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. If you feel like you ready then move on, I don't think his family will have a problem with it. Believe in yourself and don't worry about what other people think. Your not a bad person for moving on, it's just a apart of life.
2007-01-06 09:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by DESIGNER_SMILE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry 2 hear about ur bf but i think if you're ready to move on then who are they to stop you! there is no certain amount of time u shud w8 so if u feel ready then go 4 it lifes too short to be sitting round feeling sorry for yourself. gud luck n i hope all goes well 4 u!
2007-01-06 09:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by cheeky_babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good Lord will bring you someone when the time is right. Sometimes the right time is not when you expect it!
I am also in a similar situation with an illness, and I believe HE will bring me the correct person for me at the perfect time!
2007-01-06 08:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im soo sorry about that hun. its been over a year now. i think they will understand that u have moved on since u been mourning over him for along a$$ time now.. it should be okay. or u should just talk to them about it. if not ur goina live a life like this foreve feeing sorry for urself and or him.. just try to move on though he will always be in ur heart
2007-01-06 09:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you go and talk to them? Tell them how you feel and how worried it is making you. I am sure they will understand, they wont be expecting you to stay on your own for ever. If youre thinking about this other person then it sounds like the time is right, it doesn't mean youll ever forget him ! HUGS!!!!
2007-01-06 08:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by Basket-santa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋