Is it okay to spank your children and if so is it okay to spank with anything other than your hand ?

Question

This question is only to gain a general understaning of what the public feels about spanking children due to an ongoing debate within my work and church community. thank you for responding

Answer 1

Spanking is absolutely okay. I am a mom of seven kids and each one them knows that if they misbehave after receiving a warning they WILL be spanked. There are a couple of ground rules when it comes to spanking in my opinion;
1)No child is too old to spank, I spanked my 12yr old the other day and I would spank my 14yr old son too if he deserved it.
2) Remeber to use a punishment that fits the child and the crime, some kids respond better to the removal of priveledges and timeouts than a simple spanking.
3) I don't think you should use anything other than your hand when spanking a child, nor should you spank them anywhere other than their butts.
4) You should NEVER spank a child when you are mad....with them or mad for any other reason.
5)The best way to carry out a spanking is as follow;
Have the child go to their room or a room and wait for their spanking,they should wait for half their age eg.a six yr old for 3mins. Then put the child over your knee pull down their trousers/shirt and give them 3/4 sharp spanks-Afterwards ask for an apology.
6) Remember that if you threaten to spank you must always carry through even if the child attempts to back track otherwise the threat of a spanking becomes an empty one.
Finally for all of you anti spankers it is not a punishment designed to hurt the child but to take them down a peg or two when they get sassy and show them who is boss.
It has worked well as a disciplinind tool for all of my kids, and although I don't like to have to spank them there are occasions when I must.

Answer 2

Spanking is always gets a bad answer. I live in Canada and I know that by the Children's aid society here that you can smack a child on the bum with your bare hand. But you can not spank a child with anything else or it is considered child abuse. I was a child who was spanked and Ill tell you maybe thats what some of the kids these days need a good spanking. I came from a generation where spanking was done and we didnt have the problems todays kids have. Nope a good spanking hurt no one and I can honestly say that every spanking I got growing up was a deserved spanking. However each parent has to take their own stand on this some people dont feel right about spanking and most people who rant and rave about spankings, dont have any children themselves.

Answer 3

I don't believe this is possible to answer with a general 'yes' or 'no'. Spanking should not be used as a common punishment; however, I think in certain situations it might be perfectly okay. Just imagine a little child trying to touch the hot iron...don't you think a swift (not hard just for shock value) swat on the backside will be more effective (and sticking into the child's mind), than trying to explain it to a toddler?
Don't get me wrong, I am not saying, spanking is the cure all but sometimes it works. I am totally against spanking with anything other than your hand, I do consider that beating.

Answer 4

It is okay to spank your child but it is not right to use anything other than your hand. I have 3 boys 6, 11 and 14 and we spank all 3 of them but only as a last resort. Spanking should never be used once a kid starts puberty. Our 14 year old still just a kid so we spank him the same way as the 11 year old and six year old.

Spankings are a rare occurance because our kids listen, but when they do happen we send the kid to their room, explain why they are getting spanked. Spankings are always done on the bare bottom with an open hand. Using a belt or something like that would be abuse.

Answer 5

I guess it is up to the parents. But you do have to be careful. You could get reported to child protective services.
I personally do not think children should be hit/spanked. If a child does something wrong there are other ways to correct the situation. I see my grandchildren in time out, having privileges taken away...and that bothers them more than a spanking. One thing for some of my grandchildren that works wonders. Their mother tells them if they do not behave, they can not come to my house or talk to me on the phone. That upsets them more than other punishments. I realize not all grandparents are as close to their grandchildren as I am with mine. So,it might not work for all children. But I would strongly encourage any parent to try to find some sort of punishment other than spanking.
If spanking is the parents choice of punishment, hand should be the only thing used. Used to be that parents used belts,switches,paddles. You have to be a LOT more careful these days.

Answer 6

I'm not a fan of spanking, I prefer other methods of discipline, but I have used it. And it does work. Sometimes the mere threat of it works.

Further, I have a friend who does not spank with her hand because she noticed that her daughter began to hit with her hands. She, instead, uses a wooden spoon. Her daughter does not hit anymore.

It really is a personal choice. Albeit, a last resort and definitaley not something a parent should do when angry.

Answer 7

I, as a parent, have wondered about this.
I don't spank unless they do something that can really hurt them. Such as....run out on the street or put something in the outlet. I only use my hand, because using anything else is abuse.
If your child hits another child you would consider that as a no no. You would tell your child, "We do not hit." But on the other hand, you are spanking/hitting him or her yourself.
Are you not sending your children mixed messages?

Answer 8

On one hand it is okay to show them that they are doing something that is not acceptable, but be clear with the child and let them know what and why. You should never spank out of your own anger. A Paddle is fine,but dn't kill the poor child,

Answer 9

there are other forms of disipline and i dont believe it is right to spank a kid. I saw a women at walmart yell at her little boy and give him a spanking and she got arrested, the boy did something that was in need of disipline, but she went and took her hand over his butt and got arrested for it, its wrong & its just 1 form of abuse. If you do it i wouldnt do it in public.

I am a 16 year old with baby on the way. & i know that its a given fact that if you spank your children, you & your child are most likely to have a bad relationship in the future. Studies have deff. shown that parents who dont spank their children & never have, have a stronger bond with their son/daughter. I have talked to a conselor about the situation too, and she agrees with it greatly, she deals with family conseling. and she sees its better to not spank your child.

My mother spanked me, and me and her dont have the relationship i wish we would. not im not saying that i rebell against my mother cause that was the form of disipline she used for me but me and her arent close and never will be. I spoke up for how i felt and now i live with my father who doesnt spank me and never did. i know when to not push him, and i know that he will disipline me other ways and i have FULL respect for him, and none for my mother. so he doesnt let me get away with things as that might sound. i was punished other ways cause he believed that spankings werent right, also i talk to my dad about anything and everything, and he is going into the delivery room with me when i have my baby in about 5 weeks.. I know how it made me feel. why would i do it to my own kid.

so i say No, its not right at all. dont do it. Be close with your child, believe me my mom regrets doing what she did those years cause she sees how me and my dad are and it makes her sad because she knows we'll never have that bond.. My sister is 26 years old and her and my mom have a relationship like no other. and my mom never spanked her. so moms see a difference. if you want your son/daughter to be close with you and talk to you about things and respect you, rethink your choice of disipline into something understanding but NOT painful..

Answer 10

Yes it is OK. and it is ok to use a belt, switch, paddle, wehatever. The hands are for hugging and loving not for spanking.