My boyfriend and I had a long distance relationship since he travelled so much in the military. He told me he was in Iraq... and I didn't hear from him over the holidays. Today, while I was out jogging with my dog, I ran right into him. He was walking his dog (which his sister supposedly had) and was with another woman. As I stood in shock, he walked right by me and ignored me. I feel so used. I dedicated 2 years of being in this relationship and all along there was someone else. How do I move on?
2007-01-06 08:38:46 · 6 answers · asked by Catxican 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You obviously deserve better! Keep yourself busy with what you love to do. He's just a page in your history book. A page that you should never go back to. You don't have to find somebody else while your mind is still on him, but you should keep doing things to take your mind off of him. A broken heart CAN be fixed!!!!!!
2007-01-06 08:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, he does deserve you anymore. You put your whole heart in and stayed faithful and true while he did not. You are a loyal and good person which he seems to have forgotten.
You need to focus on yourself for a while. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. Have your nails done or your hair cut. Something that makes you feel prettier and better than you might have while you were with your ex. When my high school sweetheart relationship of 4 years ended, I learned that a boost in your self-confidence can help ease the pain of rejection and hurtfulness. You can even go shopping with friends. That's always a good way of distractions. Having a good support group to remind you that moving on is the right thing to do is great. My friends and family were my back bone for a while after major relationships of mine had ended. My last suggestion would be reading positive books. I hate reading myself, but found that inspiration can come from self-help books and positive reading material. Even the books on audio helped when I stopped feeling like reading.
In other words distraction, distraction, distraction. The longer you go without thinking about it, the less it hurts over time. Give yourself a while to focus on what's important and valuable to you.
Good luck, and God Bless you sweetie!
2007-01-06 09:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by angelkiss95670 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a broken heart. It will hurt and you don't need to add to that by calling yourself stupid. He is a Class A cheater and a coward too. Forget how he made you feel or any love you had and remember what a two-timing liar he really is. Maybe you are in love with love. And even if that's the case, you can find someone else. Don't run yourself down. That guy's a cad!! Feel sorry for his girlfriend!! Do you really want a liar? NO!!
2007-01-06 08:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would highly recommend developing a relationship with God. If you are not religious, I would recommend remaining single for 6 months to 1 year to get to know, take care, and love yourself better. Lean on family and friends for love and support.
2007-01-06 08:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by pjames302 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my God is all i can say.. he is such a loser. Be the bigger person and do not contact him. All you can do is cry. it will be difficulty but you will get over him. Try not to blame the next man you date for this man's action, because people tend to bring past experiences in the present situation.
you deserve better and good luck.
2007-01-06 08:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep saying to yourself. I deserve better than this. Take one day at a time and keep busy. Eventually you will be over him. From what you wrote, he has been living two lives. It is time for one to end.
2007-01-06 08:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by SusieDarling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋