In asking my husband to "shush" (just as he would me in asking me to keep my voice quiter) he explodes in a rage. Telling me I'm not allowed to "shush" him (no matter how out of order he is in). He says "this is my house and you will not tell me to shush". Pretty childish I think, but he can tell me to shush simply because it is his house. If I try to use logic with him on this matter he becomes verbally abusive. I'm an Irish woman married to an american/cuban is there something I'm not getting? I feel this is like bullying. Any comments would be welcome, thank you.
2007-01-06 07:52:06 · 23 answers · asked by Oceanwave 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Whoa. If you two were just dating I would tell you to leave immediately. How long have you been married? Perhaps his true colors are just starting to come out.
2007-01-06 07:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore the idiot that said call the police. that is not abuse but I am thinking you two probably have not been married to long if this is just coming to your attention.( Yes I am pedjidust by Ricky Recardo of I love lucy) about firy Lattino pastion, possably part of what atracted you to him in the first place.The road to wedded bliss alwase has some ruff spots to smoth out. I sugjest write him a letter or email. Explane that you were not razed to be any bodys door matt, and though you love him you expect the same respect that he wants. I believe you two can work this out
Comunication is the key
G O O D L U C K
2007-01-06 08:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's abuse. It's bullying.
A real man does not look down on his wife. He looks her eye to eye and gives her every according respect as an equal partner in the home.
I do find being "shushed" a pet peeve and I understand why your husband might get irritated, however its not fair that your husband treats you this way KNOWING how irritating the behavior is.
You deserve better. I'm sure you love your husband very much and so I'm sorry to say that his chauvinistic attitude gives the rest of us men a bad name.
2007-01-06 07:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband really has some deep rooted control issues. The fact that he seems to live by a double standard, in that he can tell you to be quiet but you cannot do the same, seems to indicate that he does not respect you as an equal partner in this marriage. If this is a recent issue then I would say that things will only get worse if he doesn not learn to respond to things as a mature adult.
2007-01-06 07:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by lifeasakumkwat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your not getting is that he is a selfish, self centered egomaniac. I think you should rethink your being with him for your own salvation because he isn't going to change and things will probably get a lot worse in the future as you keep pushing this issue and he keeps refusing to give in. If you have no kids and can desolve the relationship, I think you'll do a lot better with the next.
2007-01-06 07:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not right! In this day and age, the man and woman have equal rights (with the exception of some traditional chivalry). You need to tell that pig the two most important words in a marriage are (and I heard from another more knowledgeable source) "Yes dear"
2007-01-06 09:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by Straw Hat Samurai 2.0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living in America ... Surprise! It's your house too. Aside from that I think you need to see a marriage counselor or agree to never shush each other ever again.
2007-01-06 07:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by reslstancelsfutlle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get super pissed when any one shushes me too...Im not a child! He doesnt have a right to be verbally abusive, but if you want to try to prevent it in the future consider asking him to be quiet...I would even prefer "shut up" to shush.
2007-01-06 08:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter where he is from or you are from you both should respect eachother. If he talks to you like that but you cant talk to him like that that is wrong .If he is your husband then that is your house to.He has no right to shush you and be mad when you do it to him..So most definiately it is wrong of him...hope you get him straightened out soon..goodluck....*
2007-01-06 07:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by ***Tracy *** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants control. Doesn't want you to have any say. One of those "I'm the man of the house" stupid guys. If hes already becoming emotionally abusive, watch out!
2007-01-06 07:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by Hot Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋