Are there any Psychologists or parents out there that have a 5-7 yr. old that has been diagnosed with hyper?

Question

sensitivety anxiety disorder? What steps can be taken with her when you try to teach her something like dressing herself and she cryies and says she can't do it? She gets all upset. Even just telling her to pick up after herself she says she can't remember. Things are repeated over and over but nothing seems to help. I love her dearly and want to do something for this problem.

Answer 1

Be very patient and never lose your cool and never snap at her. It can be frustrating at times, but you need to remain calm. Show her things slowly and constantly give her positive feedback when she does well.

(This is lay advice and should not take place over advice given by the treating psychologist.)

Answer 2

My son has this problem and he's 8 now. He has developmental problems too so he still talks like he's five and can hardly get himself dressed in the morning. He often gets in a rage over some minor thing and had major difficulties in school when he entered kindegarden (he was violent with students and staff, so much so that they were considering expelling him--from kindegarden!!!).

Eventually we met with a psychiatrist who diagnosed him as possibly bipolar (they can't be sure until he's a teen), and perscribed certain medications. My son still has problems but he is a lot more under control than he used to be. I have to make sure not to get too frustrated with him since that just exaserbates the problem (since he gets upset that I'm upset).

At first I was against medications, but when there was so much violence involved I felt it was necessary. Despite what people might think about Ritalin (and the other meds), it hardly turns my son into a "zombie" or something. He still gets wild and he only takes it when he's in school. It helps him get through the schoolwork. When he gets home he is pretty much the same, but without the anger and depression problems. We have to adjust his meds from time to time, and we have to make sure he takes (which is quite a bother), but it is worth it. I feel that I have finally gotten to know my son as a person, and not just a contrary frustrating selfish boy. We have a lot of fun together, but it does take work. Good luck.

Answer 3

My son who is 6 has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). I know how fusterating it is to deal with small children that have to be constantly reminded to do something. The best way to handle this situation is a LOT of love and understanding and PATIENCE! My son sees a psychologist (3 times a year) who manages his ADHD. He is on medication which helps with the hyperness, but it usually still has to be reminded of things....ex: stop running in the house, pick up toys, quit fighting, put something in the sink...ect. These all go with having kids though too. There is no right or wrong way to handle the problems you are facing. Just be patient with her and give her a lot of love (even if you have to keep repeating yourself over and over and over). If you cant handle it after a long day, take a breather...that's what I do! There is no sense in taking it out on the kid who doesnt understand why they behave the way that they do. Maybe you should talk it over with her dr and see if you guys can devise a plan that will help the both of you.

Answer 4

Gosh. You have a job on your hands. Then again, she doesn't have serious special needs like cerebral palsy or autism. You probably would need to get with a pediatrician for a specialist who deals with these type of behavioral disorders.

What I would do (if it was me in the situation) is use a reward system for when she does something good. Explain to her that everybody has chores and she does too.

Start with a list of chores or duties like brushing her teeth, picking up clothes, dressing herself. Check them off each day when she completes them. Decide what her reward will be when each day is checked off completely. She doesn't get the reward unless she completes the task. The more her self-confidence is built up the easier it will be for her to overcome her anxieties.

Good luck.