wat if i had a kid with a girl and i stayed with her i asked some of my friends this and some said that i would be stupid because im going to playfootball and staying with her would end that but i said i would stay with her am i stupid
2007-01-06 07:08:22 · 23 answers · asked by maury williams 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you are not stupid. Sounds like you are just responsible to me! Way to go dude! You are not just another dead-beat dad.
2007-01-06 07:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by hotrodgirl1973 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm....... stay with a girl and do the right thing which obviously you are leaning toward...... or football in which there is no guarantee that you are going to make it. Or who the heck says you can't do both? To say otherwise is just silly.
As far as your friends go who are they to say anything? The decisions that you make now will affect you for the rest of your life! Doubtful they will be around years from now. However you cut it you now have a FAMILY. This is a real decision that needs to be made by a man which is what you bacame when she got pregnant. YOU are responsible now for the welfare of two other people. Together or not.
Sit her down and asks what she wants. Explain to her that you want to follow you dream but want to be together. Might as well since you are going to be paying child support either way. Explain to her that it won't be easy but you want to try, together.Even if it doesn't work out that way she will be much more kindly when it comes to visitation or support. Plus years from now you will be able to tell your child that you tried to do the right thing.
You are not stupid...... just being thoughtful about what may happen. You need to really sit, think about this and go with your gut.
2007-01-06 15:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO your not stupid! your friends are! so, don't listen to them!
Listen, you can do both. Stay with your girl & your kid. That's important. Your career with football is also important, so keep doing that too! Who ever said anything is impossible in this world? they are wrong, because ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. all you need to do is focus, commit, keeping looking forward, stay positive & most importantly.....STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE, SUCH AS YOUR FRIENDS WHO ARE GOING TO GIVE YOU BAD ADVICE.
2007-01-06 16:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not stupid but you acted like you are first of all you can play your football with her being there and you watching her while you play your football.Secondly i am sure the girl too wants to have fun so both of you can go out and have fun,JUST MAKE SURE YOU KEEP AN EYE ON HER.Bottom line is you are not stupid and you can have fun too.
2007-01-06 15:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by sanmi . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you should stay with the girl (even if it means your stupid) because you have a responsibility to the kid!!
2007-01-06 15:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you stayed with her cause of the kid stupid, because you love her not stupid
2007-01-06 15:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by TC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not stupid for staying with her. However, you are stupid for mispelling words and not using capital letters at the appropriate times.
2007-01-06 15:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude she didn't climb on herself and get preg so no you are not stupid! this kid is yours and you have the responsibility to her and the kid! football maybe still in the future, try and go to a school near you and build up to other things
2007-01-06 15:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by porkey_jrabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only stupid thing I've heard so far is that you didn't use protection. Otherwise, you sound like you are willing to do the right thing, and I think that's smart.
2007-01-06 15:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by Kodoku Josei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with her. Shes having your child your friends don't understand because its not happening to them
2007-01-06 15:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by sara69251 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋