I'm almost 20 years old and I have had no experience with men. Zip, nada, zilch. I am attractive and straight for sure so I asked a shrink in the last 15 minutes of a session why men never ask me out. I really can't afford to go back for a while.
She says it's because I'm very angry with men and they can tell. She said she could tell.
I just thought not trusting men was good common sense!
Anyway, do you have any advice/clarifications on how to get over this? Because I feel like it's time to start getting some experience if you know what I mean. Are they really only out for one thing? Do they have feelings like women do? Do they actually fall in love or is it just about lust? Should I even care?
Also, are men intimidated by independent, sarcastic, funny, and intelligent women? Or is it all about my prejudice?
2007-01-06 07:03:37 · 11 answers · asked by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is your personal bias that you get from the media from what i see. Yours perception of men is a very stereotypical view that men are insecure idiots who fear people with more power. Well you are somewhat right but this is because throughout history, men tend to be in power and some are used to this. Your perception is accurate if you went in a time machine and went back in time a couple hundred years but right now, no. No real advice but I suggest to get some male friends.
2007-01-06 07:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lying from you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U must be nuts!! We CAN be just as caring,funny, attractive and sarcastic. I for one am and am surrounded by soo many. Its not always about lust so dnt discriminate too much. Maybe men may be tryn to ask you out indirectly make urself see the opportunities. Mak eurself available and find urself in places u are likely to be found by handsome yung men. Not the office or ur house. Go out more often
2007-01-06 15:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by Theodore S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend one night with me babe and you will no longer hate men! Seriously, men are just like women. You will meet some that you like and some that you hate. The only way to find out is to meet some. Start out, with finding a guy to just be your friend. You will learn more about them that way, then trying to date them. If you have a guy as a friend he will be more likely to tell you his true feelings than a guy you are dating, because that guy is going to be on his best behavior, because he is trying to make a good impression. Have you ever heard the saying "It is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all?" It is very very true. Who taught you that not trusting men was good common sense? They should be locked up for mental abuse. Just because a guy has a penis, doesn't mean he is out to take you for all you are worth.
2007-01-06 15:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by Danny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you angry with men?
thats the question you must ask and answer. as for your other questions; there are good men and there are bad men, just don't get obsessed with men, realize that men have emotions and hormones just as women do, and just as women react to these things, so do men. although each in their own unique and personal way. remember the old song lyric in 'hey jude' , that's good advice for anyone , man or woman. and i don't believe you're truly predjudiced, just a little confused like everyone is at 20.
2007-01-06 15:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by geezer 51 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My experience is this if you haven't had any luck finding why you hate men you need a new shrink.And you can get one you can afford or for free.People who have these hard opinions on subjects like thes is because something deep has happened to them.There is nothing wrong with you or your not prejudice.And all men aren't great just like all woman aren't great.You need to realize theres something deep there and it can be fixed but over time and it might be traumatic for you and maybe its something very simple but affected you as a child in a profound way.I speak from experience not as if i dont know what i'm talking about so please if you need to talk you canemail me at kaylazmarlex@ yahoo.com anytime.good luck and i hope in this new year you find strength and courage for yourself!!!!!!
2007-01-06 15:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by pookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns girl. It sounds like you have high expectations for yourself and a man. BUT...you wont know who's out there if you don't give yourself and them a chance. Accept dates and have fun. If they don't work out, oh well. No big deal. There are alot of men out there.
Your last sentence described me to a tee. Very few men can attract my attention, but those that do, I've had great fun with. I just haven't found one YET that is tough enough to take me..lol
The difference between you and I is, I was married for 20 years. divorced over 2 now and your life has just begun!
So, go girl, let your guard down a little, have some great dates and see what is out there for YOU! HAVE FUN! : )
2007-01-06 15:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget the shrink BS. All men are not ******* and there are good ones out there, they fall in love the same as girls. Yes you are prejudice, get over it.
2007-01-06 15:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jason Bourne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only get out of a relationship what you are willing to put into it. You love, you will be loved, you trust, you will find and be trusted, you hate, you will be hated, simple as that, although not always easy to put into action
2007-01-06 15:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by Cherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is good luck. Sounds like you've got a lot of questions to be answered.
2007-01-06 15:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were a woman and a les..Your question would definitely invite me to come after you. Be careful!
2007-01-06 15:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋