with that kind of thing! Could going to church have an effect on this? I go to church almost every Sunday. She's gone to church 2 times in her ENTIRE life. Our values are extremely different because I have more a religious perspective and she doesn't --- not so much... She does attend this school Bible study, but when I told her some stuff out of the Bible, she goes, "Well, I disagree with God then..." Yeah.
2007-01-06 07:00:57 · 26 answers · asked by ×ithurtsogoodØ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She doesn't curse around me, but she does EVERYWHERE else!
2007-01-06 07:01:42 · update #1
She's a believer, but doesn't live as much as a Christian lifestyle as she should!
2007-01-06 07:06:55 · update #2
Looks to me like a typical Christian question from a typical Christian. You don't actually come out and ask for advice on what to do because you already know what you are going to do, and only want the approval of people like your self.
Even though you didn't ask for it I am going to give my opinion anyway. You need to leave this girl alone so that she can live her life as she sees fit, and not according to your twisted view of the world and how people should talk.
2007-01-06 07:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Okay, bottom line, first the average Christian says they beleive the bible, but deny anything they don't like, so in that respect she is normal.
However, if it bothers you now, it will bother you even more after you marry, if indeed you do. It will not get better, only worse. The only competant people to help you with this problem is a licensed, therapist. I suggest you 2 get some councelling before it gets serious or you may end up in a very bad marriage.
Don't listen to anyone who say that love conquors all and that you will find a way, that beleif is the exact reason so many people marry the wrong person for them and then wonder why they have a unhappy marriage.
Don't beleive me talk to someone who knows, even if you write Dr Phil and I am not a great fan of him because he is too politically correct, but in cases like yours he could help.
Anyone who just speaks their opinion without telling you to seek advice from a licensed professional is giving bad and dangerous advice.
Remember if you think this realationship is worth saving and she does too, then see a therapist together, it is not shameful to seek help in these matters.
2007-01-06 17:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely with "Higherground_Pastor." It seems as if the two of you are unequally yoked. You obviously have feelings for this girl, but it's also obvious she doesn't know the Lord and is attending classes just to appease you. From the little you've told us of her, she is not a true believer. So you must make a decision: who is more important -- God or this girl? Your flesh tells you that you can have both, but Scripture tells you this is not a relationship God would have you to persue. The fact that you need to ask advice on this issue tells me the Spirit is speaking to you, urging you to examine this relationship closer.
Break things off now, lean on the Lord during your time of sorrow, then GO TO CHURCH and meet a great Christian girl. I promise, she's out there!
Peace.
2007-01-06 15:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
R u people frigging kidding me???!!!
What kind of advice do you give to this guy?
Whatever pride, conceit, self-righteousness, hypocracy (or other "fruit of the spirit" most of you are exhibiting here), possess you all to believe that you have the right to correct and judge this girl in this manner? Even if she was as sinful as Mary Magdalene.
Anyone want him to stone her, too?
Is this Christian fellowship or some forum of the Pharisees?
We, atheists, sometimes appreciate the spirit of what you are supposed to believe, more than you, "believers," do...
So, a question from an atheist - whatever happened to simply:
"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye..."
2007-01-09 06:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by counterfactual 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put cussing into perspective please, it is a little molehill in the desert of life. if you really love her ONLY she can believe that using bad language needs to be repented of.
it is good for all believers to Clean up their language and speak words of peace.
but it is not appropriate for a christian to declare a holy war against someone that is not convinced of this. Especially the ones that dont have a born again spiritual change of heart.
If you cannot as christian PULL down the powers of wickedness in high places then stay away from simple iniquities of bad language. Remember some people confuse saying the lords name in vain as being the same thing as cussing, but curses and witchcraft spells are greater mounds to deal with as well. and when it comes to Saying the lords name in vain, The religion of old history once used the name of God so much that it became an abomination, just as the jehova witness do with the name of god in the their translation of the scriptures, it is used in vain repeatedly. But so also is the People who pray in the lords name, if they use his name amiss, it is used in vain.
remember not all things are right. living in peace with other people should be an example to others.
forgive others and God will forgive you.
2007-01-06 15:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she uses the name of God as a curse word, then she has little respect for Him. Which usually means that she does not really know what He is like.
Yes, going to a church where the Bible is taught as a revelation from God would have an effect on her. But she still has the choice to seek God or reject Him.
2007-01-06 15:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a Christian you are not supposed to take the Lord's name in vain but the other" curse" words, damn, son of a ***** etc. are only what society consider to be cursing at the moment-I remember when F*** was taboo-now it seems to be used by everyone-one of the few that can be a noun,verb, adjective and adverb-I still don't like to hear it but hey,...obviously she has some respect for you if she refrains from cursing around you!(sounds like you have some very different ideas...work them out before you get more serious(O:)
2007-01-06 15:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by win 43 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Psalms 32:2 Blessed is the man unto whom the LORD imputeth not iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no guile.
Psalms 34:13 Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile
When a person says they are a Christian and uses a foul mouth as described in your post,(no judgement here) you must look at your surroundings to see what is causing you to fall short of God's glory. If your friend is not a Christian and uses that filthy language, perhaps you need to tell her that as long as she speaks vulgar things like she does, there is no place in your life for her.
This is putting God first in your life before your friend and that is what is expected from us by God. It is through your pointing out the seriousness of the situation, and that your being subjected to her sinful behavior that it is pulling you down and away from your spritual roots and covenant with the Lord.
God says this about His children who follow Him...
2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
Understand that you and your friend are made out of the same flesh and blood, but what separates you from her now is the spirit of God that dwels in your soul. She may continue with her guile mouth, and never feel remorse , but you on the other hand, will be convicted each time you open your mouth and the same filth comes out,
You are a child of God and God will continue to confict you until you either change your mouth and choose to be aroung those who respect God the way you know you do in your heart. Through your walking away from your friend, she may be led to Jesus through seeing what her mouth has cost her
God bless you, and may His perfect will be done for you in your life!.
2007-01-06 15:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the best thing you can do is simply be honest with her and tell her how uncomfortable it makes you feel. If she loves you she will understand.
I think the best scripture you can show her is in Ephesians chapters 4 and 5
Paul says pretty plainly in there that we should do away with all manner of speaking in vileness, flithiness, evil and silly talk.
Now that Christ has come and filled our hearts with His love we should reflect that love to the whole world.
It;s kind of hard to show others who Christ is when they don't see it and hear it in what we do.
Jesus also said back in the Gospels.....
Matthew 12:36
But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.
Do we really want to stand in front of Jesus someday and give an account of why we spouted off those &*^&%%$^&^ and that (&^$@%$%^
I don't think so
Hope that helps some
Jesus Loves You
2007-01-06 15:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by revshankumc 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I cuss everywhere I go. There's nothing wrong with it. It's just a spoken word. If dogs could speak, that would be awesome, even if it was a cuss word. Would it mean the same thing coming from a dog that learned to say "shxt"?
2007-01-06 15:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by Cold Fart 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋