My nine year old has a bad self eteme already and i was just seeing if anyone could gve some advice on how to help raise her self esteme up.She is beautiful,athletic and smart.I tell hr this all the time but it just she doesn't see it.
2007-01-06 06:51:06 · 6 answers · asked by starryeyed 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
That is so sad. Encouraging her to participate in things she is good at might prove to her that she is worthy of praise. John Lithgow has written a great book and song called Marsupial Sue. It is a cute story about a Kangaroo and really brings home the self-esteem issue. Check it out, it is one of my favourites and your daughter might enjoy it.
2007-01-06 06:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mishwho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really change how someone else feels about themselves. You can, however, take advantage of opportunities that may present themselves for *her* to take notice of something good about herself. Always be a good model of good self esteem as well. Don't let her hear you put yourself down in any way... whether it's a "I need to lose weight", "I'm not good at balancing the checkbook", or "I wish I could tell people no". Whatever it may be... don't let her see you belittle yourself in those ways.
You should also probably have a serious talk with her. Maybe just a question here or there... but give it proper time and attention to whatever her response is. Find out why she feels the way she does. Has someone told her she can't do something well, has someone told her her clothes aren't "good enough" or "cool", has she heard frustrated comments at home over helping with homework that maybe she is not understanding... anything you can think of that might lead to a clue as to why she may feel inferior in some way.
Throw light on things and discuss them.
2007-01-06 15:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by Snow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think letting her teacher know your concerns would help. Her teacher could be a strong self esteem booster! Especially if her teacher can give her "jobs" to do that the other students can't do. I would not let your daughter know that you have spoken to the teacher, but I would start there. Girls especially look to adults for self esteem and if the teacher makes her "special" in the classroom then the other little girls will follow suit, giving her even more self esteem. I would also make sure there is plenty of one on one time with her mom and dad, showing her how special she is.
2007-01-06 15:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by wickedness_one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me good self esteem comes from inside. Until you learn to like yourself it's hard to raise your self esteem. I was in my forties before I had any and now my friends laugh and say I have too much. Keep on telling her all of her good assets. Maybe when she gets to the dating age and the boys fall out over her she'll know that what you say is true.
2007-01-06 15:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Pearl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thinks you will say that because you are her Dad.But if someone not related to her says it more than once she will have better self esteem trust me and she will take it seriously .. So ask around it will help her alot...
2007-01-06 14:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by girl..1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her or you write on a piece of paper... i am beautiful, i am athletic and i am smart... and maybe that she is a good person and that she is worthy of loving herself... tape it to the bathroom mirror at her eye level....tell her to read it to herself every time she brushes her teeth... i did that at 10, and i am 26 now, and never even think about being self conscious or insecure with myself.... she has to know it for herself...
2007-01-06 14:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by cathy n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋