My nine year old has a bad self eteme already and i was just seeing if anyone could gve some advice on how to help raise her self esteme up.She is beautiful,athletic and smart.I tell hr this all the time but it just she doesn't see it.
2007-01-06 06:49:58 · 10 answers · asked by starryeyed 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
At that age, she is beginning her preteens. Which is pre TEENS.
Many teens have a horrible self-confidence. She will grow out of it.
But usually it doesn't start this early.
Maybe she has moved recently? Sometimes, when children move, the class is ahead of them and the child sees themselves as not as good as the rest.
Or maybe she is just comparing herself to everyone else.
We're all equal, right?
Let's say one person is athletic, extremely athletic. (But not so bright)
Let's say one person is intelligent, extremely intelligent (But not so athletic.)
When doing athletic activities, she compares herself with the athletic person.
When studying, she compares herself with the intelligent person.
Because we all have equal qualities, she can't be excellent at both.
So she is a bt better than average than most, but then, someone who only focuses on one thing is better at it than her.
So because people beat her at everything, she thinks she is bad at everything.
You could
A. Let her baby-sit or hang around younger kids. Because they aren't as experienced with life, they really make you hold your head higher.
B.DO NOT take her to a psychologist. This will make her feel like there is something wrong with her.
C. Get her a pet, These cheer people up constantly.
D. Exxagerate your own faults. It's may hurt you mentally,but it'l help her see everyone has faults.
2007-01-06 06:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first step is why?
Why does she have low self esteme? There could be many reasons. 9 in my book is too young to have low self esteme.
You must discuss the situation with your child. Pin point where the problems are. Only then will you be able research the issues and offer her guidance. Knowing what the problem is
is half the battle.
I wish I could offer you further advice, but like I said, Once you find out where the problem is you’ll have a better understand as to what is going on with your child which will allow you to help her in a more effective way.
Best of luck!!
2007-01-06 15:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by asgrafxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that everyone she thinks is "cool" and "popular" are suffering the same doubts that she is. That everyone on the planet wonders if they are "good enough" when, in fact, everyone on the planet starts out a near perfect specimen. It's only when they intentionally hurt others that they get truly ugly. Nine is difficult. She's going to start puberty if she hasn't already. Just keep telling her what a beautiful person she is, rather than what a pretty girl she is. When you see something positive she does, point it out to her. Try to stay away from any negative comments, unless they are warranted for behavior correction. And good luck.
2007-01-06 14:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by Kodoku Josei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is anything that raises self esteem, it's recognition. The more people that can recognize a good quality or a strength, the higher the self esteem.
So I'd try to get a lot of people to comment on her positive attributes. This will eventually make her stop thinking she isn't cool, and BAM: self-fulfilling prophecy will make her a confident kid!
2007-01-06 14:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jabbu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage her to do things she is good at. Praise her often on her accomplishments. My 8 year old loves to hear when he does something well at how impressed I am. Listen when she talks. She needs to know that whatever she says is valued and heard. I like to lay with my little ones right before bed or snuggle on the couch and remind them of how wonderful they are and how proud of them I am for their accomplishments.
Also, at dinner we tell our best and worst parts of the day. Then we say something nice about each person at the table, something they did during the day that we liked about them. Ex- My favorite thing about Beth today is that she got an A on her test which she studied so hard for.
It always helps to hear how wonderful you are and to see that others notice and celebrate with you.
2007-01-06 14:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by lil_hem_n_va 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a result of the example that you set for her. Many times adults gripe and complain and feel terrible about themselves. Adults may not feel this way most of the time but what children see in us, they pick up on. When they see us feeling sorry for ourselves they begin to think that this is appropriate for them too.
2007-01-06 14:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 17 and have this problem.. if u dont sort it out when they are younger it wil stay with them as they get older.. m seein a councellor now.. but trust me make her c a specialist if her self esteem is very low coz it stays with her as she grows older and plz keep on helpin her seein hw good she is bcoz its worh it
2007-01-06 14:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im at a very young age and i had a very low self esteme.
Try taking her shopping and let her get some new clothes that she likes dont disagree on what she picks out.
If she likes it let her get it.
2007-01-06 14:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by Babyloveex3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does she have low self confidence? Tell everything great about her and tell her no one is greater than she is. :]
2007-01-06 14:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by MiMi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell het tht each person is unique and special. and wht qualities she has, many of her classmates or friends will not have.
2007-01-06 14:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋